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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 590321" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>In defence of schedules:</p><p></p><p>For some of us... living a "timetabled existance" isn't an option... it is literally life-and-death.</p><p>There is so LITTLE structure out there (even school is chaos... at least, here it is), that difficult child is beyond coping, and home is his "safe" place, the "predictable" place. So, we can't go throwing chaos at him HERE, on top of what he is dealing with in the rest of the world. We can't turn school into structure... he will learn to deal with the lack of structure, there - hopefully, with some help from various resources including us. HOME? predictable. boring. K2 says we live a "beige life"... and yes, it's tough on the rest of us, sometimes. But... having done the extreme structure thing for many years? We are NOW beginning to add in some (small) adjustments, some flexibility, and difficult child is able to cope with that.</p><p></p><p>You HAVE to go with what works. I'm not a structure lover either. Everything in me would rather just live in the moment. Thank goodness husband can crack the whip... we're all doing MUCH better.</p><p></p><p>NOT saying that J needs extreme structure. Just that you can't necessarily expect J to adapt to what your preferred lifestyle is... it may or may not work.</p><p></p><p>And because J is learning to read, you can use a combo of pictures and words for your schedule... like a grade 1 picture book. Again... you go with what works. The rest is just... theory.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 590321, member: 11791"] In defence of schedules: For some of us... living a "timetabled existance" isn't an option... it is literally life-and-death. There is so LITTLE structure out there (even school is chaos... at least, here it is), that difficult child is beyond coping, and home is his "safe" place, the "predictable" place. So, we can't go throwing chaos at him HERE, on top of what he is dealing with in the rest of the world. We can't turn school into structure... he will learn to deal with the lack of structure, there - hopefully, with some help from various resources including us. HOME? predictable. boring. K2 says we live a "beige life"... and yes, it's tough on the rest of us, sometimes. But... having done the extreme structure thing for many years? We are NOW beginning to add in some (small) adjustments, some flexibility, and difficult child is able to cope with that. You HAVE to go with what works. I'm not a structure lover either. Everything in me would rather just live in the moment. Thank goodness husband can crack the whip... we're all doing MUCH better. NOT saying that J needs extreme structure. Just that you can't necessarily expect J to adapt to what your preferred lifestyle is... it may or may not work. And because J is learning to read, you can use a combo of pictures and words for your schedule... like a grade 1 picture book. Again... you go with what works. The rest is just... theory. [/QUOTE]
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