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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 128812" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>In hindsight of my own contentious relationship with my daughter's father (who had custody most of her life) and the grief and expense we all went to, it would have behooved us both to have been a little more flexible at times.</p><p></p><p>in my humble opinion, and with the gift of hindsight, legally you have every right to withhold visitation. In view of it successfully pitting your daughter against you with her mom (or is it her dad?), you will probably win the battle and lose the war. It wouldn't have killed her or you to allow her to go a few hours to a birthday party, so long as everyone understood that she's not to dilly dally with Brett. There were going to be other kids in the car, and she could have been told to sit in the back seat. Or you could have driven her yourself. Letting her go would have gone a long way towards repairing relationships. After all, they let her stay on their weekend when you had plans.</p><p></p><p>It's a little difficult to determine who Liz and Brett are to you and difficult child. Is Liz her stepmom and Brett her father? Is Liz your ex and difficult child's mom, Riley being her brother/half brother? If Brett is no relation to anyone, then difficult child needs a good talking to about being sensible enough to not put herself in any compromising positions with him or Riley. If Brett's her dad, and really were up to something, that type usually is on their best behavior when you say "We're watching you, don't even try." It gives them a wonderful ally in the child who isn't harmed.</p><p></p><p>With joint custody, you run the risk that she will go live with mom. Being inflexible is probably not going to keep her where you want her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 128812, member: 99"] In hindsight of my own contentious relationship with my daughter's father (who had custody most of her life) and the grief and expense we all went to, it would have behooved us both to have been a little more flexible at times. in my humble opinion, and with the gift of hindsight, legally you have every right to withhold visitation. In view of it successfully pitting your daughter against you with her mom (or is it her dad?), you will probably win the battle and lose the war. It wouldn't have killed her or you to allow her to go a few hours to a birthday party, so long as everyone understood that she's not to dilly dally with Brett. There were going to be other kids in the car, and she could have been told to sit in the back seat. Or you could have driven her yourself. Letting her go would have gone a long way towards repairing relationships. After all, they let her stay on their weekend when you had plans. It's a little difficult to determine who Liz and Brett are to you and difficult child. Is Liz her stepmom and Brett her father? Is Liz your ex and difficult child's mom, Riley being her brother/half brother? If Brett is no relation to anyone, then difficult child needs a good talking to about being sensible enough to not put herself in any compromising positions with him or Riley. If Brett's her dad, and really were up to something, that type usually is on their best behavior when you say "We're watching you, don't even try." It gives them a wonderful ally in the child who isn't harmed. With joint custody, you run the risk that she will go live with mom. Being inflexible is probably not going to keep her where you want her. [/QUOTE]
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