Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Joint custody with felon pedophile
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 128847" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I get that Brett is a jerk. I get that Liz is the new girlfriend and maybe not aware of Brett's past. It was not proved in a court of law that he was a molester. </p><p></p><p>In the mean time - Brett sounds like he's making a 2nd attempt this year at a family life with what sounds to me like a fairly down to earth woman. She may not be the brightest bulb in the carton for not recognizing the signs of an abusive man, and it sounds like with her own son Riley (age14) she has her hands full with him, but your opinion of Brett's life doesn't count here. It counted in court, it counts in therapy but I don't think you ever got your insurance straightened out to get the girls the needed therapy. </p><p></p><p>I'm not being mean - but if you really believed the girls about being molested, and the court saw it different I would have RUN SCREAMING to mental health to have a therapist listen to my girls. Then if anything came out in therapy a licensed professional can make a report based on his/her findings. What the law will see at this point is there was an investigation and there was no evidence to prove he did what the girls said - and you don't think it's so serious as to seek further counseling - so you come out as difficult parents - believe me I've seen this happen. </p><p></p><p>Kids see things differently than we do- all Sam knows is that her potential 1/2 brother was having a PARTY and she didn't get to go because the grown ups were hung up on emails and times. If it had really been important for anyone that Sam be happy - the adults in your camp could have sent an email to Brett and Liz and said "Hey - are you still doing this thing with Sam? We never got together on a time or This would be convenient for us?" Just not doing anything and hoping the other side messes up isn't the best plan. It just adds fuel to the fire. And I'm not saying that you should be buddies - but think of how SAM must have looked at this - was there a reason someone in your house couldn't have followed up for her sake? If you get tired of being the mature parents the start a journal and write down each time YOU have had to step in and be the bigger party. When you've had enough take THAT evidence to court. </p><p></p><p>I'm too - mystified why there isn't at least a guardian with him at all times to see his kids. Can you elaborate? </p><p></p><p>Brett has moved on, Liz has moved in, Riley is a part of that, and Your house is apparently happy with each other...their house is (happy with each other) - so I don't get what the big deal is on sharing time?</p><p></p><p>If there are valid reasons for keeping her from Liz and Brett and Riley - then go back to court and take it up with a judge - I have to give it to Liz on that point - she made sense...she said "The court said this, and this and this and you are doing your own thing so we'll go back to court." But she stated a fact, and didn't sound threatening. </p><p></p><p>Like Witz said - you're going to win the battle but loose the war. Sorry - I think Sam is the one that lost out in this all the way around - and Riley too - he's just a kid after all with a lot of problems apparently - It may have meant a lot for him to show off his 'sister'. </p><p></p><p>Facts of life that no one likes in blended families.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 128847, member: 4964"] I get that Brett is a jerk. I get that Liz is the new girlfriend and maybe not aware of Brett's past. It was not proved in a court of law that he was a molester. In the mean time - Brett sounds like he's making a 2nd attempt this year at a family life with what sounds to me like a fairly down to earth woman. She may not be the brightest bulb in the carton for not recognizing the signs of an abusive man, and it sounds like with her own son Riley (age14) she has her hands full with him, but your opinion of Brett's life doesn't count here. It counted in court, it counts in therapy but I don't think you ever got your insurance straightened out to get the girls the needed therapy. I'm not being mean - but if you really believed the girls about being molested, and the court saw it different I would have RUN SCREAMING to mental health to have a therapist listen to my girls. Then if anything came out in therapy a licensed professional can make a report based on his/her findings. What the law will see at this point is there was an investigation and there was no evidence to prove he did what the girls said - and you don't think it's so serious as to seek further counseling - so you come out as difficult parents - believe me I've seen this happen. Kids see things differently than we do- all Sam knows is that her potential 1/2 brother was having a PARTY and she didn't get to go because the grown ups were hung up on emails and times. If it had really been important for anyone that Sam be happy - the adults in your camp could have sent an email to Brett and Liz and said "Hey - are you still doing this thing with Sam? We never got together on a time or This would be convenient for us?" Just not doing anything and hoping the other side messes up isn't the best plan. It just adds fuel to the fire. And I'm not saying that you should be buddies - but think of how SAM must have looked at this - was there a reason someone in your house couldn't have followed up for her sake? If you get tired of being the mature parents the start a journal and write down each time YOU have had to step in and be the bigger party. When you've had enough take THAT evidence to court. I'm too - mystified why there isn't at least a guardian with him at all times to see his kids. Can you elaborate? Brett has moved on, Liz has moved in, Riley is a part of that, and Your house is apparently happy with each other...their house is (happy with each other) - so I don't get what the big deal is on sharing time? If there are valid reasons for keeping her from Liz and Brett and Riley - then go back to court and take it up with a judge - I have to give it to Liz on that point - she made sense...she said "The court said this, and this and this and you are doing your own thing so we'll go back to court." But she stated a fact, and didn't sound threatening. Like Witz said - you're going to win the battle but loose the war. Sorry - I think Sam is the one that lost out in this all the way around - and Riley too - he's just a kid after all with a lot of problems apparently - It may have meant a lot for him to show off his 'sister'. Facts of life that no one likes in blended families. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Joint custody with felon pedophile
Top