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<blockquote data-quote="WearyWoman" data-source="post: 398185"><p>marg - We'd certainly settle for the pittance, if it were available! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite9" alt=":eek:" title="Eek! :eek:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":eek:" />)</p><p> </p><p>susie - It's interesting you brought up the military. JT has always talked about it, but, as you said, in this time of war, it's especially dangerous. I would be worried sick. Plus, the military does not allow anyone who has used a stimulant to join, unless they have been off of it for some period of time. JT is not aware of that. We're afraid if he knew that he'd want to stop his Concerta.</p><p> </p><p>midwest - I certainly haven't ruled out anything related to pre-birth alcohol/drug exposure for either of my boys. It is very hard not knowing. If they were my bio kids, I'd at least know what I consumed during pregnancy. I suspect Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) even more for our younger boy, as his birthmom was not aware she was pregnant until 4 months along. She admitted to smoking during those months, but not drinking. I believe our younger one does have some physical characteristics as well. We're in the process of getting an evaluation for it. Like your son, he has been diagnosed with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), and I read a study where fetal alcohol exposure has been linked to autism. I'm shocked at the lack of resources and information about this. In this part of the country, alcoholism is rampant. I'm sure there must be a lot of affected individuals who have no idea they or someone they know even has it.</p><p> </p><p>DDD - Some days I feel optimistic that JT will mature out of this kind of behavior, and on other days, I worry what could happen if he does not. He definitely slips through the cracks in terms of services, because, as I said, he is very charismatic, intelligent, good looking, athletic, funny, and outgoing. It's hard to reconcile these traits with his periodic serious lapses in judgment. Most would say he is choosing to be a risk taker, but I know in my heart of hearts that something is wrong with his executive brain functioning. He has been like this since he was a toddler. This is not a new teenage matter. It's embedded in his very person. When he was only four, he ran out of the Sunday school room at church, and we found him hanging over the second floor balcony from the choir loft! I could give you many more examples, but, as I said, he has required intense supervision from a young age for things like this. They don't happen all the time, but periodically, some big thing seems to happen.</p><p> </p><p>skeeter - Yes, there is definitely a difference between "smarts" and "common sense", as you mentioned. I know exactly what you're talking about. JT is very book smart. He absorbs information like a sponge. He reads constantly. In fact, he has read entire automobile manuals, engine repair guides, and lots of stuff related to tools, ice fishing, hunting, etc. He rarely studies for tests at school, and he still manages good grades. BUT . . . ughhh . . . the stupid choices he sometimes makes! It's hard to believe he could be so smart in one way and so senseless in another. He just ought to know better, but obviously he doesn't. He truly seems unable to predict the consequences of his actions at times. </p><p> </p><p>We're going to have a discussion with him this morning when he gets home from his grandparents' house out of town. I'll let you know how it goes.</p><p> </p><p>Thanks everyone!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WearyWoman, post: 398185"] marg - We'd certainly settle for the pittance, if it were available! :o) susie - It's interesting you brought up the military. JT has always talked about it, but, as you said, in this time of war, it's especially dangerous. I would be worried sick. Plus, the military does not allow anyone who has used a stimulant to join, unless they have been off of it for some period of time. JT is not aware of that. We're afraid if he knew that he'd want to stop his Concerta. midwest - I certainly haven't ruled out anything related to pre-birth alcohol/drug exposure for either of my boys. It is very hard not knowing. If they were my bio kids, I'd at least know what I consumed during pregnancy. I suspect Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) even more for our younger boy, as his birthmom was not aware she was pregnant until 4 months along. She admitted to smoking during those months, but not drinking. I believe our younger one does have some physical characteristics as well. We're in the process of getting an evaluation for it. Like your son, he has been diagnosed with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), and I read a study where fetal alcohol exposure has been linked to autism. I'm shocked at the lack of resources and information about this. In this part of the country, alcoholism is rampant. I'm sure there must be a lot of affected individuals who have no idea they or someone they know even has it. DDD - Some days I feel optimistic that JT will mature out of this kind of behavior, and on other days, I worry what could happen if he does not. He definitely slips through the cracks in terms of services, because, as I said, he is very charismatic, intelligent, good looking, athletic, funny, and outgoing. It's hard to reconcile these traits with his periodic serious lapses in judgment. Most would say he is choosing to be a risk taker, but I know in my heart of hearts that something is wrong with his executive brain functioning. He has been like this since he was a toddler. This is not a new teenage matter. It's embedded in his very person. When he was only four, he ran out of the Sunday school room at church, and we found him hanging over the second floor balcony from the choir loft! I could give you many more examples, but, as I said, he has required intense supervision from a young age for things like this. They don't happen all the time, but periodically, some big thing seems to happen. skeeter - Yes, there is definitely a difference between "smarts" and "common sense", as you mentioned. I know exactly what you're talking about. JT is very book smart. He absorbs information like a sponge. He reads constantly. In fact, he has read entire automobile manuals, engine repair guides, and lots of stuff related to tools, ice fishing, hunting, etc. He rarely studies for tests at school, and he still manages good grades. BUT . . . ughhh . . . the stupid choices he sometimes makes! It's hard to believe he could be so smart in one way and so senseless in another. He just ought to know better, but obviously he doesn't. He truly seems unable to predict the consequences of his actions at times. We're going to have a discussion with him this morning when he gets home from his grandparents' house out of town. I'll let you know how it goes. Thanks everyone! [/QUOTE]
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