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Jumper: How would you handle this? Walking a fine line...
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<blockquote data-quote="dstc_99" data-source="post: 614270" data-attributes="member: 15473"><p>Jumper actually sounds similar to my difficult child. She takes things very personally and holds on to the anger about it forever. She has often cut of her nose to save face. Once she gets angry or upset by someone she stays that way for a long time and it definitely causes her issues at school and with teams. It also caused us issues because anything you ever did was held against you for life. On the other hand she didn't think anything she did should be held against her for even 1 minute. Punishments should last all of 2 seconds and then the event should be forgotten.</p><p></p><p>I tried several ways to help but honestly in difficult child's case nothing worked. I tried sitting difficult child down and explaining the situation to her as best as I could from the opposite point of view. That didn't work because then I wasn't being understanding and supportive of her. I tried listening and giving advice. That never worked because my advice was useless. I tried leaving it alone. That worked for me since I didn't have to deal with it but not for her since the issue didn't get resolved. I finally had to go so far as to report some of the issues to the school (cyberbullying). She moved out 48 hours later.</p><p></p><p>All I can say is with teenage girls it is a **** shoot. Hopefully Jumper is more open to support than my difficult child. I wish you the best of luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dstc_99, post: 614270, member: 15473"] Jumper actually sounds similar to my difficult child. She takes things very personally and holds on to the anger about it forever. She has often cut of her nose to save face. Once she gets angry or upset by someone she stays that way for a long time and it definitely causes her issues at school and with teams. It also caused us issues because anything you ever did was held against you for life. On the other hand she didn't think anything she did should be held against her for even 1 minute. Punishments should last all of 2 seconds and then the event should be forgotten. I tried several ways to help but honestly in difficult child's case nothing worked. I tried sitting difficult child down and explaining the situation to her as best as I could from the opposite point of view. That didn't work because then I wasn't being understanding and supportive of her. I tried listening and giving advice. That never worked because my advice was useless. I tried leaving it alone. That worked for me since I didn't have to deal with it but not for her since the issue didn't get resolved. I finally had to go so far as to report some of the issues to the school (cyberbullying). She moved out 48 hours later. All I can say is with teenage girls it is a **** shoot. Hopefully Jumper is more open to support than my difficult child. I wish you the best of luck. [/QUOTE]
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