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Jumper is crabby and I found out why. What to do?
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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 544620" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>OK - First of all I totally agree with you about checking her cell phone. Something was going on and you needed to find out what that was. </p><p></p><p>It is awful that she is pining away for this boy. She hasn't given up hope that this can work out yet. First love is so hard to get over. </p><p></p><p>I would suggest counselling to her again and talk to her about how it can help her work through her feelings and start to feel better about moving forward with her life. I'm not sure I would insist on it at this point. I think insisting on it might put you on the other side of the ring instead of in her corner, at least in her eyes. </p><p></p><p>I really like #3. Maybe when she is being very crabby with the family you can call a time out and talk to her about her feelings around J. Making her aware of how she is letting that hurt and anger flow over onto other people. Maybe once she realizes how much it is spilling over into her life she will be more open to the option of counselling. </p><p></p><p>I remember being 17 and totally in love with a boy who broke my heart. I called him for quite a while - almost obsessively. It was so hard to stop doing it but I did it. Mostly because I was tired of humiliating myself. I finally cut off all communication with him. I remember picking up the phone and dialling his number with my finger holding the 'hang-up' button down. It was awful and it took me about 3 months to finally feel like I was ok again. </p><p></p><p>The good news is she is still spending time with friends and still participating in her sports. That is a good sign. I would be much more worried if she was withdrawing from everything. </p><p></p><p>I really feel for Jumper. She is lucky to have a mom like you. My mom was oblivious to my pain and we didn't have a relationship where we could talk anyway.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 544620, member: 14356"] OK - First of all I totally agree with you about checking her cell phone. Something was going on and you needed to find out what that was. It is awful that she is pining away for this boy. She hasn't given up hope that this can work out yet. First love is so hard to get over. I would suggest counselling to her again and talk to her about how it can help her work through her feelings and start to feel better about moving forward with her life. I'm not sure I would insist on it at this point. I think insisting on it might put you on the other side of the ring instead of in her corner, at least in her eyes. I really like #3. Maybe when she is being very crabby with the family you can call a time out and talk to her about her feelings around J. Making her aware of how she is letting that hurt and anger flow over onto other people. Maybe once she realizes how much it is spilling over into her life she will be more open to the option of counselling. I remember being 17 and totally in love with a boy who broke my heart. I called him for quite a while - almost obsessively. It was so hard to stop doing it but I did it. Mostly because I was tired of humiliating myself. I finally cut off all communication with him. I remember picking up the phone and dialling his number with my finger holding the 'hang-up' button down. It was awful and it took me about 3 months to finally feel like I was ok again. The good news is she is still spending time with friends and still participating in her sports. That is a good sign. I would be much more worried if she was withdrawing from everything. I really feel for Jumper. She is lucky to have a mom like you. My mom was oblivious to my pain and we didn't have a relationship where we could talk anyway. [/QUOTE]
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