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Jumper is crabby and I found out why. What to do?
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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 544637" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Option 3 but with elaboration instead of leaving it at that. She needs to hear some support in getting over her first 'love', in my humble opinion. I don't think she needs counseling from a prof over this but I think she needs to hear from you or a supportive person who's close to her that first loves are extremely hard to get over. They are painful but usually necessary in typical lives in order to have our learning experiences. I don't know the right words or words that can help relieve her pain but please remember, this wasn't her or J's fault- this was a "first love" and they rarely work out to end in a marriage forever. You knew that when she started seeing him. Who knows how much either party played into it lasting or ending. It doesn't matter. She needs to learn HOW to move on but also understand that it's a normal process. To me, he's done his best to let her down easily, regardless of who's 'fault' it was. Yes, she slao needs to learn how not to take it out on others. She also needs to be reminded that her entire identity is not wrapped up in this guy and there will be another somewhere down the road, but she has to get over this one to rid herself of the access baggage. Just my 2 cents.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 544637, member: 3699"] Option 3 but with elaboration instead of leaving it at that. She needs to hear some support in getting over her first 'love', in my humble opinion. I don't think she needs counseling from a prof over this but I think she needs to hear from you or a supportive person who's close to her that first loves are extremely hard to get over. They are painful but usually necessary in typical lives in order to have our learning experiences. I don't know the right words or words that can help relieve her pain but please remember, this wasn't her or J's fault- this was a "first love" and they rarely work out to end in a marriage forever. You knew that when she started seeing him. Who knows how much either party played into it lasting or ending. It doesn't matter. She needs to learn HOW to move on but also understand that it's a normal process. To me, he's done his best to let her down easily, regardless of who's 'fault' it was. Yes, she slao needs to learn how not to take it out on others. She also needs to be reminded that her entire identity is not wrapped up in this guy and there will be another somewhere down the road, but she has to get over this one to rid herself of the access baggage. Just my 2 cents. [/QUOTE]
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