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Jumper will never have a get together at ouro house...I'm angry and hurt
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 540587" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Well, I should've started out saying I hadn't read every single response....LOL But yes, you're right DDD. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>in my opinion too, you've got to give your teens chances to make these hard decisions as well. Sure they may make the wrong ones or mess up.......but usually it teaches them something we as parents can't teach them. Some things a kid has to learn on their own. When I taught my kids about drinking, drugs and sex.....I also taught them that I couldn't make those decisions for them, and that is why I armed them with so much information......in hopes of helping them make the right decision in those moments.</p><p></p><p>Like with easy child with the alcohol poisoning. (and yes, that scared me clear to my marrow) When she'd ask me why I don't drink except rare occasions, I explained to her that I seem to have a natural ability to drink anyone under the table....it takes an enormous amount of alcohol to get me drunk and I never throw up, nor have I ever passed out. While teens might think that's a great asset, it's actually extremely dangerous.......because you can get alcohol poisoning rather easily. Throwing up is your body's way of saying it's had too much & it's trying to get rid of the alcohol. Despite all my warnings.....one night she just kept right on drinking because she could........and discovered the hard way she takes after her Mom........and it lead to alcohol poisoning. From that time on (once she was an adult and drank again)......she limits the amount she drinks carefully, she might get a buzz but she doesn't aim for drunk. Tough lesson learned. And because she learned it the hard way........Nichole has always been careful with alcohol and not pushed it too far. </p><p></p><p>And while they got a free pass to get home safely (because if the kid isn't alive, the entire point becomes moot), it didn't mean they didn't have consequences waiting on them the next morning. easy child lost her privilege for sleep overs due to the alcohol poisoning party......I couldn't stop her from drinking, but at least she would come home by curfew (which was 11:00pm) and I would know the condition she was in. Know what I mean?? And the parents that allowed the drinking? They were responsible people and checked on the kids regularly. The problem wasn't with them.....when easy child finally passed out and they couldn't wake her and her breathing was so shallow (and stopped a few times) they hid her in a bedroom and told the parents she'd went to bed instead of being honest and getting her to the ER because they were afraid of getting into trouble. Stupid decision by her friends, and they suffered the consequences because I told the parents.....who by the way were furious. There were no more parties at that house.</p><p></p><p>MWM, you've done a fabulous job with Jumper and you have a wonderful relationship with her. I've always thought so. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> If it ain't broke, don't "fix" it.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 540587, member: 84"] Well, I should've started out saying I hadn't read every single response....LOL But yes, you're right DDD. :) in my opinion too, you've got to give your teens chances to make these hard decisions as well. Sure they may make the wrong ones or mess up.......but usually it teaches them something we as parents can't teach them. Some things a kid has to learn on their own. When I taught my kids about drinking, drugs and sex.....I also taught them that I couldn't make those decisions for them, and that is why I armed them with so much information......in hopes of helping them make the right decision in those moments. Like with easy child with the alcohol poisoning. (and yes, that scared me clear to my marrow) When she'd ask me why I don't drink except rare occasions, I explained to her that I seem to have a natural ability to drink anyone under the table....it takes an enormous amount of alcohol to get me drunk and I never throw up, nor have I ever passed out. While teens might think that's a great asset, it's actually extremely dangerous.......because you can get alcohol poisoning rather easily. Throwing up is your body's way of saying it's had too much & it's trying to get rid of the alcohol. Despite all my warnings.....one night she just kept right on drinking because she could........and discovered the hard way she takes after her Mom........and it lead to alcohol poisoning. From that time on (once she was an adult and drank again)......she limits the amount she drinks carefully, she might get a buzz but she doesn't aim for drunk. Tough lesson learned. And because she learned it the hard way........Nichole has always been careful with alcohol and not pushed it too far. And while they got a free pass to get home safely (because if the kid isn't alive, the entire point becomes moot), it didn't mean they didn't have consequences waiting on them the next morning. easy child lost her privilege for sleep overs due to the alcohol poisoning party......I couldn't stop her from drinking, but at least she would come home by curfew (which was 11:00pm) and I would know the condition she was in. Know what I mean?? And the parents that allowed the drinking? They were responsible people and checked on the kids regularly. The problem wasn't with them.....when easy child finally passed out and they couldn't wake her and her breathing was so shallow (and stopped a few times) they hid her in a bedroom and told the parents she'd went to bed instead of being honest and getting her to the ER because they were afraid of getting into trouble. Stupid decision by her friends, and they suffered the consequences because I told the parents.....who by the way were furious. There were no more parties at that house. MWM, you've done a fabulous job with Jumper and you have a wonderful relationship with her. I've always thought so. :) If it ain't broke, don't "fix" it. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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