I'm trying not to project too far here... but Oldest's hours have been cut back at work, and she and her boyfriend have broken up, yet still living together.. she's trying to find another place to live. Her "friends" recently bailed on her 25th birthday celebration (yet she ran into them at a bar across the street, they basically just blew her off). She's feeling sorry for herself. I know that must hurt, but, it's a pattern... the inability to maintain relationships. Her lying and manipulation eventually push people away ... until the next group of "new friends" come along. From my experience, this combination of events is a typically a setup for another crisis/pain pill binge/crazy borderline outburst. I'm bracing myself. Does anyone else feel that tension start to build when the old patterns re-emerge yet again? I've been in a "blah" mood lately, so it seems harder than usual to push these feelings back and tell myself not to worry about things that haven't even happened yet.