I don't post here very often but have been reading this site daily for years. This may be a little lengthy but I am just asking for some prayers and good thoughts for my difficult child who is now 26. Quick background, I adopted her through foster care as a single mom when she was age 11. Attachment was not really an issue but she has always had very low self esteem and has always had problems applying herself to anything. She was diagnosed with ADHD and later on with Bi-polar. She has severe anxiety and also suffers with depression. We tried counseling and medications but nothing seem to really help. She has also had several legal issues that have happened over the years. Currently that seems to be behind her. My biggest issue (other than her burst of anger at times which has been very frightening at times) is that she has always acted so much younger than she is and this causes so many problems for her and for me. Even at 26 she can very much act like she is 12 or 13 by the way she talks and handles herself. Weird behavior. Here is the current situation. She has been in and out of my house over the past 4-5 years. Got married very quickly last year to someone who turned out to have a drug and alcohol problem and became abusive. She got pregnant very quickly and I now have an absolutely beautiful 5 month old grandson. difficult child and grandson now live with me. She is currently not working (very rough work history) but does receive assistance. I am just very concerned about the fact that she has no direction in life at all. She absolutely loves her baby and is very hands on with him, which I am so thankful for, but she acts more like a young teenage mother. Because of her low self esteem she doesn't take care of herself at all. She is very overweight, has had high blood pressure problems since he was born, her cholesterol is in the danger zone and now has thyroid issues. Junk food is basically all she eats and I can't control that because it is her food stamp card. She gets very defensive when I or anyone else discusses this with her or else she makes you think she is listening but nothing changes. The childlike behavior is what really drives me up the wall and always has! There are times when I believe she can control it and times when I'm not sure she can. I was really hoping that things would turn around for her when she had her son and in some ways they have but not like they need to. I just want her to be around to see him grow up because he is an amazing baby and I know he is going to be an amazing young man. At this point he seems to be right on track with everything and is a very easy going and loveable little boy. I know there isn't a lot I can do for his mother at this point but just ask for prayers and good thoughts for her.