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Just cant understand the reasoning, our difficult child is spinning out of control.
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 584166" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Yup, logic will not work here. And, those folks who live in negativity, chaos, drama and upheaval generally speaking do not change much. So, the task at hand is for you and your wife to detach, not only from your difficult child, but from the bio-dad and his fiance' and their never ending soap opera. Once you do that effectively and the drama tribe realize they cannot pull you in anymore, they will stop. I have gone through all of the same never ending craziness with my daughter's in-laws, there was absolutely nothing I could do to stop the onslaught of their perpetual drama and blame, however, once I got help and detached and accepted the way it was, oddly, they all disappeared. It's a little harder with my difficult child, but I've learned how to negotiate that territory too. It's why you need help from professionals, you really have to forge a whole new pathway out.........you have to throw logic overboard and I get how hard that is, you have to let go of a lot, but believe me, it's worth it because you find peace, your life calms down from all the stress and you find your own way. But, the road to detachment has a million mine fields, get yourself help to avoid stepping on each and every one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 584166, member: 13542"] Yup, logic will not work here. And, those folks who live in negativity, chaos, drama and upheaval generally speaking do not change much. So, the task at hand is for you and your wife to detach, not only from your difficult child, but from the bio-dad and his fiance' and their never ending soap opera. Once you do that effectively and the drama tribe realize they cannot pull you in anymore, they will stop. I have gone through all of the same never ending craziness with my daughter's in-laws, there was absolutely nothing I could do to stop the onslaught of their perpetual drama and blame, however, once I got help and detached and accepted the way it was, oddly, they all disappeared. It's a little harder with my difficult child, but I've learned how to negotiate that territory too. It's why you need help from professionals, you really have to forge a whole new pathway out.........you have to throw logic overboard and I get how hard that is, you have to let go of a lot, but believe me, it's worth it because you find peace, your life calms down from all the stress and you find your own way. But, the road to detachment has a million mine fields, get yourself help to avoid stepping on each and every one. [/QUOTE]
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