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Just cant understand the reasoning, our difficult child is spinning out of control.
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<blockquote data-quote="cw_mi" data-source="post: 584180" data-attributes="member: 15803"><p>Recoveringenabler,</p><p> You are so correct. Many years ago I had a very bad break up and until I could detach my emotions I was wrapped up in the drama.. once I detached it all got put behind me. The theory is sound but its much more difficult doing it with someone that you want to see succeed in life. There is nothing more than we would love to see is our difficult child have a successful fulfilling life. If she continues on her path and marries this loser there will be nothing but struggles. We dont want to see that especially with someone that you raised (speaking for my wife) she feels it reflects back on her. Even though we both know the majority of her issues where from her bio dad. I know my wife thinks that at some point she will see the light, before she met her loser fiancé she did start seeing the light about how her bio dad had manipulated her. Hopefully if it happens no mistakes have been made that are irreversible. </p><p> </p><p>Midwestmom,</p><p> Up until difficult child moved to her bio dads (a little over 4 months ago) I can say a definite no. Now that she is out from under our roof I cant answer that in confidence. Although her weight loss and lack of hygiene can be accounted for. Her bio dad eats nothing but junk food and for the most part doesnt really grocery shop so she is stuck eating whatever he has in the house, she wasnt much of an eater when she lived with us but we at least fed her healthy foods. As far as her hygiene , bio dad wont spend the money for her to get a haircut so shes been cutting her own hair also again he wont spend the money on clothes for her either. Even more so now that he is unemployed. Again I dont think she is on drugs but who really knows. The people that she walked away from was anyone that spoke out about her relationship/engagement , part of it is her but a lot of it is the fiancé. I remember seeing some chats of theirs and he would keep telling her that he loves her the way she is, everyone is trying to get you to change they dont love you so she believed him and turned against us. Both her bio dad and her fiancé are great manipulators and she was always a little weak. Our mistake was trying to get her to find herself which lead her to find someone else to lead her around.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="cw_mi, post: 584180, member: 15803"] Recoveringenabler, You are so correct. Many years ago I had a very bad break up and until I could detach my emotions I was wrapped up in the drama.. once I detached it all got put behind me. The theory is sound but its much more difficult doing it with someone that you want to see succeed in life. There is nothing more than we would love to see is our difficult child have a successful fulfilling life. If she continues on her path and marries this loser there will be nothing but struggles. We dont want to see that especially with someone that you raised (speaking for my wife) she feels it reflects back on her. Even though we both know the majority of her issues where from her bio dad. I know my wife thinks that at some point she will see the light, before she met her loser fiancé she did start seeing the light about how her bio dad had manipulated her. Hopefully if it happens no mistakes have been made that are irreversible. Midwestmom, Up until difficult child moved to her bio dads (a little over 4 months ago) I can say a definite no. Now that she is out from under our roof I cant answer that in confidence. Although her weight loss and lack of hygiene can be accounted for. Her bio dad eats nothing but junk food and for the most part doesnt really grocery shop so she is stuck eating whatever he has in the house, she wasnt much of an eater when she lived with us but we at least fed her healthy foods. As far as her hygiene , bio dad wont spend the money for her to get a haircut so shes been cutting her own hair also again he wont spend the money on clothes for her either. Even more so now that he is unemployed. Again I dont think she is on drugs but who really knows. The people that she walked away from was anyone that spoke out about her relationship/engagement , part of it is her but a lot of it is the fiancé. I remember seeing some chats of theirs and he would keep telling her that he loves her the way she is, everyone is trying to get you to change they dont love you so she believed him and turned against us. Both her bio dad and her fiancé are great manipulators and she was always a little weak. Our mistake was trying to get her to find herself which lead her to find someone else to lead her around. [/QUOTE]
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