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Just cant understand the reasoning, our difficult child is spinning out of control.
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 584182" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>cw_mi- I'm about to leave my office, however I wanted to quickly respond to you once again. I think I mentioned this before, but NAMI has parent groups which are very helpful to understand our difficult child's and how we can cope with all of it. That's National Alliance on Mental Illness and you can check them out online. They are a great resource for parents. And, yes, it is, as one mother here so eloquently said, "a personal devastation" unlike any other.......... to raise a child for whom you want the very best and then to watch them make disastrous choices which keep them perpetually stuck in drama and struggles while you stand on the sidelines, helpless and heartbroken. Your difficult child's choices are absolutely no reflection on your wife's parenting, AT ALL, that is a trap to think that way and only offers up truckloads of guilt and what ifs which are not going to help you at all. There is always the possibility that our difficult child's will get better, we all hope for that, but we cannot live for that, there is a distinction there, at some point you have to let go, you really have to detach and understand there is just nothing you can do, or could have done, nor can you control or change anything. Sigh. It is what it is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 584182, member: 13542"] cw_mi- I'm about to leave my office, however I wanted to quickly respond to you once again. I think I mentioned this before, but NAMI has parent groups which are very helpful to understand our difficult child's and how we can cope with all of it. That's National Alliance on Mental Illness and you can check them out online. They are a great resource for parents. And, yes, it is, as one mother here so eloquently said, "a personal devastation" unlike any other.......... to raise a child for whom you want the very best and then to watch them make disastrous choices which keep them perpetually stuck in drama and struggles while you stand on the sidelines, helpless and heartbroken. Your difficult child's choices are absolutely no reflection on your wife's parenting, AT ALL, that is a trap to think that way and only offers up truckloads of guilt and what ifs which are not going to help you at all. There is always the possibility that our difficult child's will get better, we all hope for that, but we cannot live for that, there is a distinction there, at some point you have to let go, you really have to detach and understand there is just nothing you can do, or could have done, nor can you control or change anything. Sigh. It is what it is. [/QUOTE]
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