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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 439616" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>You can learn alot about a kid by playing games. The doctor was watching how your son reacts to challenges, follows the rules, and how he responds to the outcome of the game. The game also can relax a child (if it is not frustrating them) to where a conversation can be held without direct eye contact. Your difficult child can answer questions without feeling that all the attention is on him. If it is getting frustrating, the doctor can try to figure out why, what is it that is overwhelming about a simple game? Some kids like to change the rules along the way, is your son one of those kids? These are things the doctor was looking for to help get to know your child better.</p><p>I by accident learned that my difficult child had trouble with the game Chutes and Ladders (at age 13). It has you going from left to right and then right to left up the board. You would think that by age 13 one can stop for a second to figure out which way you are suppose to move but he did not. He wanted to go left to right and start on the left side instead of coming back right to left. I used to think like you, "What is the use of games outside entertainment?" until I had my lightbulb moment with Chutes and Ladders. Even the easiest of games comes with some skills and talents with the biggest one the sportsmanship. Some people play for the fun, some play for the win and will try to manipulate the game if need be to win. Some struggle with the skill it takes - like taking turns, moving the correct way, ect.</p><p>If you are still seeing this particular doctor or if you are lining up a new one, ask them about the importance of games. He or she should be willing and able to tell you what he/she gets out of each particular game. Maybe have your difficult child sit in the waiting room for a short time while you visit with the doctor about the strategy behind the process he or she chooses.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 439616, member: 5096"] You can learn alot about a kid by playing games. The doctor was watching how your son reacts to challenges, follows the rules, and how he responds to the outcome of the game. The game also can relax a child (if it is not frustrating them) to where a conversation can be held without direct eye contact. Your difficult child can answer questions without feeling that all the attention is on him. If it is getting frustrating, the doctor can try to figure out why, what is it that is overwhelming about a simple game? Some kids like to change the rules along the way, is your son one of those kids? These are things the doctor was looking for to help get to know your child better. I by accident learned that my difficult child had trouble with the game Chutes and Ladders (at age 13). It has you going from left to right and then right to left up the board. You would think that by age 13 one can stop for a second to figure out which way you are suppose to move but he did not. He wanted to go left to right and start on the left side instead of coming back right to left. I used to think like you, "What is the use of games outside entertainment?" until I had my lightbulb moment with Chutes and Ladders. Even the easiest of games comes with some skills and talents with the biggest one the sportsmanship. Some people play for the fun, some play for the win and will try to manipulate the game if need be to win. Some struggle with the skill it takes - like taking turns, moving the correct way, ect. If you are still seeing this particular doctor or if you are lining up a new one, ask them about the importance of games. He or she should be willing and able to tell you what he/she gets out of each particular game. Maybe have your difficult child sit in the waiting room for a short time while you visit with the doctor about the strategy behind the process he or she chooses. [/QUOTE]
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