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<blockquote data-quote="dashcat" data-source="post: 538447" data-attributes="member: 9175"><p>First and foremost: I'm only thowing this out for discussion. We all have different opinons and - heaven knows - different policies in our homes regarding our difficult children. So, PLEASE: No fisticuffs!!! </p><p></p><p>I recently posted about my difficult child (almost 21) and her sleepovers with guys I received a variety of reponses ranigng from "not in my house, ever" to "it is what it is" to "it's none of my business".</p><p></p><p>What I found interesting, is that none of the replies that indicated that the parent was ok with sleepovers or cohabitation in their home, - were from parents of daughters.</p><p></p><p>So, I'm curious now. Weigh in, fellow warrior parents, with your honest thoughts on this subject: If you have sons and daughters, are your feelings/policies the same with both sexes? If you have only sons/daughters, how do you think you would feel?</p><p></p><p>I have one daughter and I am the youngest of three daughters. My policy is: The only time a member of the opposite sex would be allowed to sleep here is: 1. A large tree has fallen across the road, making it impassable. 2. Random natural disaster of any sort 3. Travelling from out of state in which case A. Relationship must be at least one year long B. I have met this person before. In any of the above situations, Lotahrio will sleep on the living room couch, difficult child in her room.</p><p></p><p>Now, about sleepovers away from here. That's where it gets trciky. difficult child and I have compromised on a max of twp nights per week when she can "crash at a party". becasue she is too tired to drive or has been drinking. I know the party and the group that is suppoesed to be there and the "too tired" are usually hooey, but it's a compromise. </p><p></p><p>She's only been in her current relationship for about three weeks, but I can't do a darned thing about those kinds of choices. I can onlyl draw boundaries around my home the conditions of her staying here.</p><p></p><p>I have no idea if I'd be different with a son. I think I'd be the same about my home, but I've never had a son ..or an adult easy child, so I j ust don't know.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I'm not asking for advice. Just letting you know where I am. Now I'd like to here from you.</p><p>Dash</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dashcat, post: 538447, member: 9175"] First and foremost: I'm only thowing this out for discussion. We all have different opinons and - heaven knows - different policies in our homes regarding our difficult children. So, PLEASE: No fisticuffs!!! I recently posted about my difficult child (almost 21) and her sleepovers with guys I received a variety of reponses ranigng from "not in my house, ever" to "it is what it is" to "it's none of my business". What I found interesting, is that none of the replies that indicated that the parent was ok with sleepovers or cohabitation in their home, - were from parents of daughters. So, I'm curious now. Weigh in, fellow warrior parents, with your honest thoughts on this subject: If you have sons and daughters, are your feelings/policies the same with both sexes? If you have only sons/daughters, how do you think you would feel? I have one daughter and I am the youngest of three daughters. My policy is: The only time a member of the opposite sex would be allowed to sleep here is: 1. A large tree has fallen across the road, making it impassable. 2. Random natural disaster of any sort 3. Travelling from out of state in which case A. Relationship must be at least one year long B. I have met this person before. In any of the above situations, Lotahrio will sleep on the living room couch, difficult child in her room. Now, about sleepovers away from here. That's where it gets trciky. difficult child and I have compromised on a max of twp nights per week when she can "crash at a party". becasue she is too tired to drive or has been drinking. I know the party and the group that is suppoesed to be there and the "too tired" are usually hooey, but it's a compromise. She's only been in her current relationship for about three weeks, but I can't do a darned thing about those kinds of choices. I can onlyl draw boundaries around my home the conditions of her staying here. I have no idea if I'd be different with a son. I think I'd be the same about my home, but I've never had a son ..or an adult easy child, so I j ust don't know. Anyway, I'm not asking for advice. Just letting you know where I am. Now I'd like to here from you. Dash [/QUOTE]
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