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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 538456" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I should probably start with stating with the fact, that I'm not North American. I'm from a part of Europe there person, who is virgin in their wedding is considered a freak and people getting married before living together (usually several years) are considered either stupid or religious fanatics. In fact people often tend to get married in their first baby's Christening if they don't want to have big weddings. We tend to hope our kids would wait starting their sex lives until they are 16 or 17 but if a parent would get to know their kid is a virgin at 20, they would probably be worried. especially our youngsters are very quick to move together after starting dating. My difficult child and his girlfriend (both 18) had been together six months before they officially moved together. That is considered rather normal time. I expect my difficult child to have few more live-in girlfriends before he finds a one he will marry. Of course this could be it, but usually newely weds have had one or two live-in mates before they meet their fiancée. Also one night stands are considered normal and common if you are not cheating anyone. So many would consider us sexually immoral lot, but sky has not yet fallen onto us.</p><p></p><p>I only have sons but it would be same for daughters, expect I would maybe be okay for them to have overnight guests earlier, because girls tend to be more mature than boys.</p><p></p><p>When my difficult child visits, his girlfriend is also very welcome and they sleep in difficult child's old room. (And to be honest, I assume they really just sleep, it is uncomfortable to have sex under the roof of your prospective in-laws.) Also at our boat they share the bed. If easy child would bring a girl over, she would sleep at guest room at least now. It may be different for example a year from now, when easy child will be soon turning 17. Depends if he will have a serious girlfriend then. easy child is allowed to visit overnight also his girlfriend home/summer cottage/boat within the same rules he can vstay a night at his male friends homes etc. and where they sleep is her parents business.</p><p></p><p>I firmly believe my kids' sex life is their business. I tried to teach them certain things, but when they are adult (or near it), it is their business to conduct as they see best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 538456, member: 14557"] I should probably start with stating with the fact, that I'm not North American. I'm from a part of Europe there person, who is virgin in their wedding is considered a freak and people getting married before living together (usually several years) are considered either stupid or religious fanatics. In fact people often tend to get married in their first baby's Christening if they don't want to have big weddings. We tend to hope our kids would wait starting their sex lives until they are 16 or 17 but if a parent would get to know their kid is a virgin at 20, they would probably be worried. especially our youngsters are very quick to move together after starting dating. My difficult child and his girlfriend (both 18) had been together six months before they officially moved together. That is considered rather normal time. I expect my difficult child to have few more live-in girlfriends before he finds a one he will marry. Of course this could be it, but usually newely weds have had one or two live-in mates before they meet their fiancée. Also one night stands are considered normal and common if you are not cheating anyone. So many would consider us sexually immoral lot, but sky has not yet fallen onto us. I only have sons but it would be same for daughters, expect I would maybe be okay for them to have overnight guests earlier, because girls tend to be more mature than boys. When my difficult child visits, his girlfriend is also very welcome and they sleep in difficult child's old room. (And to be honest, I assume they really just sleep, it is uncomfortable to have sex under the roof of your prospective in-laws.) Also at our boat they share the bed. If easy child would bring a girl over, she would sleep at guest room at least now. It may be different for example a year from now, when easy child will be soon turning 17. Depends if he will have a serious girlfriend then. easy child is allowed to visit overnight also his girlfriend home/summer cottage/boat within the same rules he can vstay a night at his male friends homes etc. and where they sleep is her parents business. I firmly believe my kids' sex life is their business. I tried to teach them certain things, but when they are adult (or near it), it is their business to conduct as they see best. [/QUOTE]
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