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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 538514" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="color: #800080"><span style="font-size: 10px">This is, to me, the crux of the issue....FOR ME. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #800080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #800080"><span style="font-size: 10px">My primary feeling is that once they are over 21, they are consenting adults and as long as they are responsible and respectful of others in the house (H and me), their significant other can sleep over. This saved my behind a few years back when easy child's boyfriend slept over and the following weekend difficult child asked if her boyfriend could sleep over. easy child's boyfriend was a long standing boyfriend (Casper), however, difficult child's boyfriend was a newbie (now her fiance). I was able to say, "Ohhh, you're not 21 yet, so the answer is no, sorry" and it was accepted without any grief. The truth of it was that at that time, difficult child was up to her ears in 'dates' and I didn't need a revolving door of men sleeping at my house who would most definitely disrespect us if we allowed that!</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #800080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #800080"><span style="font-size: 10px">If they are staying out somewhere else, not my business - just let me know so I can turn off the lights and lock the doors.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #800080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #800080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Fast forward: easy child is 24 and difficult child 22 - I allow their boyfriend's to sleep over. I don't have a problem with it. Either of them would die a thousand deaths if they chanced having sex and knew we might hear it. I thought easy child was going to puke one time when I asked her about it..."OH MY GOD MOM, I WOULD NEVER HAVE SEX IN THE SAME HOUSE AS YOU!!!!! ARE YOU KIDDING ME?????", lol. Honestly, I wouldn't even care about that either. The first time I allowed difficult child's fiance to sleep over, I kiddingly said, "No hanky panky!" and she said...are you ready? "Mom, we have a schedule for that and tonight is not one of those nights, so no worries" and then closed her door. I had to pick up my jaw off the floor. A schedule for sex?? At 22?? Wow, that girl has the boy whooped, lol.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #800080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #800080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #800080"><span style="font-size: 10px">In today's day and age, I think it's a very personal choice so no one is right and no one is wrong. You have to set the boundaries as you see fit for YOU and YOUR home. </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 538514, member: 2211"] [COLOR=#800080][SIZE=2]This is, to me, the crux of the issue....FOR ME. My primary feeling is that once they are over 21, they are consenting adults and as long as they are responsible and respectful of others in the house (H and me), their significant other can sleep over. This saved my behind a few years back when easy child's boyfriend slept over and the following weekend difficult child asked if her boyfriend could sleep over. easy child's boyfriend was a long standing boyfriend (Casper), however, difficult child's boyfriend was a newbie (now her fiance). I was able to say, "Ohhh, you're not 21 yet, so the answer is no, sorry" and it was accepted without any grief. The truth of it was that at that time, difficult child was up to her ears in 'dates' and I didn't need a revolving door of men sleeping at my house who would most definitely disrespect us if we allowed that! If they are staying out somewhere else, not my business - just let me know so I can turn off the lights and lock the doors. Fast forward: easy child is 24 and difficult child 22 - I allow their boyfriend's to sleep over. I don't have a problem with it. Either of them would die a thousand deaths if they chanced having sex and knew we might hear it. I thought easy child was going to puke one time when I asked her about it..."OH MY GOD MOM, I WOULD NEVER HAVE SEX IN THE SAME HOUSE AS YOU!!!!! ARE YOU KIDDING ME?????", lol. Honestly, I wouldn't even care about that either. The first time I allowed difficult child's fiance to sleep over, I kiddingly said, "No hanky panky!" and she said...are you ready? "Mom, we have a schedule for that and tonight is not one of those nights, so no worries" and then closed her door. I had to pick up my jaw off the floor. A schedule for sex?? At 22?? Wow, that girl has the boy whooped, lol. In today's day and age, I think it's a very personal choice so no one is right and no one is wrong. You have to set the boundaries as you see fit for YOU and YOUR home. [/SIZE][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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