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Just for history's sake-this is the letter I sent to difficult child's GFs parents
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 506551" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Sig,</p><p></p><p>I'll give you my .02 but that's probably all it's worth lol. If it were me I would not go into detail at all about what is going on. I think you opened up far too much to them. They don't need to know he has a trust fund nor do they need to know what he purchased or what his actual grades were. I think putting the purchase of drug paraphanalia into writing to this woman who obviously doesn't really care about you or him for that matter is dangerous.</p><p></p><p>If it were me I would probably say something like:</p><p></p><p>Dear girlfriend's mom,</p><p></p><p>I am writing you today as mother-to-mother as your daughter and my son are in a relationship and I want you to understand our position on some recent developments.</p><p></p><p>We have been struggling with difficult child in some areas recently including drug use, poor grades, questionable behavior at home and suspicious activity surrounding recent purchases and his living arrangements. I understand some may think we are being over protective but these issues are very serious to us and we are fearful of consequences that will be suffered as a result of his poor choices. </p><p></p><p>You and I both care about our children deeply and I want you to know that we are doinging what we think is best for our son. We are very worried for him as his recent behavior has escalated and we can no longer ignore it or sweep it under the rug. Our son does not currently want to have a relationship with us but I am sure he will be in contact with your family. My hope is that you understand where we are coming from and not enable him to continue to make poor choices with his life or your daughter's.</p><p></p><p>I continue to be open to and welcome any communication with you. My hopes and dreams are that both our children will be successful and navigate these difficult years safely.</p><p></p><p>As always,</p><p>boyfriend's mom</p><p></p><p>Now tht's probably hokey but you get the gist.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 506551, member: 59"] Sig, I'll give you my .02 but that's probably all it's worth lol. If it were me I would not go into detail at all about what is going on. I think you opened up far too much to them. They don't need to know he has a trust fund nor do they need to know what he purchased or what his actual grades were. I think putting the purchase of drug paraphanalia into writing to this woman who obviously doesn't really care about you or him for that matter is dangerous. If it were me I would probably say something like: Dear girlfriend's mom, I am writing you today as mother-to-mother as your daughter and my son are in a relationship and I want you to understand our position on some recent developments. We have been struggling with difficult child in some areas recently including drug use, poor grades, questionable behavior at home and suspicious activity surrounding recent purchases and his living arrangements. I understand some may think we are being over protective but these issues are very serious to us and we are fearful of consequences that will be suffered as a result of his poor choices. You and I both care about our children deeply and I want you to know that we are doinging what we think is best for our son. We are very worried for him as his recent behavior has escalated and we can no longer ignore it or sweep it under the rug. Our son does not currently want to have a relationship with us but I am sure he will be in contact with your family. My hope is that you understand where we are coming from and not enable him to continue to make poor choices with his life or your daughter's. I continue to be open to and welcome any communication with you. My hopes and dreams are that both our children will be successful and navigate these difficult years safely. As always, boyfriend's mom Now tht's probably hokey but you get the gist. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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