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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 755308" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Skittles I am so sorry for all you have been through and are going through. You hav been such a help, but, one can only do so much. You can’t care for her children, her situation, <em>more than she does.</em> We often went into rescue mode through the years with our grands in mind. It only seemed to prolong the inevitable. The bouncing back in forth, domestic violence, we were all jeopardized by the horrible reality. </p><p>There are many scary stories of foster care that prevent us from letting the chips fall where they may. But, there are also many loving foster families that are equipped to help these vulnerable children. The system here has checks and balances, and helps to keep loving relations involved. There may be a way where you could have your grands for a weekend visit, or for outings where you could keep an eye out for your grands, if they do end up in foster care. </p><p>I am sorry for your aching grandmothers heart. I know all too well how this feels. The trauma kids endure with domestic violence is awful. I am witnessing the scars first hand. But, kids are resilient. All in all, their safety is paramount, and what you write of amounts to a very unstable, unsafe situation. For your grands, and you.</p><p>Violent men are unpredictable. </p><p>Please take care of yourself and know you have done much to try to help. I think you are right in realizing that the circumstances are more than you can handle. </p><p>At least in foster care, the kids can receive proper health care and counseling. Many kids in this predicament begin to feel that it is their fault, develop low self esteem and failure to thrive.</p><p> My grands have many issues from living as they did. Their parents are oblivious to the effects they have had on their children. I am hoping that my grands will recover with the help of counseling and a more stable environment. Hoping that they will know their worth and rise above the degradation they lived. </p><p>I understand your hardship, the fears and needing to fortify yourself for whatever the future is. Stay strong, give it to your higher power when the burden is too heavy. Take extra good care of yourself and guard your heart.</p><p>Much love,</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 755308, member: 19522"] Skittles I am so sorry for all you have been through and are going through. You hav been such a help, but, one can only do so much. You can’t care for her children, her situation, [I]more than she does.[/I] We often went into rescue mode through the years with our grands in mind. It only seemed to prolong the inevitable. The bouncing back in forth, domestic violence, we were all jeopardized by the horrible reality. There are many scary stories of foster care that prevent us from letting the chips fall where they may. But, there are also many loving foster families that are equipped to help these vulnerable children. The system here has checks and balances, and helps to keep loving relations involved. There may be a way where you could have your grands for a weekend visit, or for outings where you could keep an eye out for your grands, if they do end up in foster care. I am sorry for your aching grandmothers heart. I know all too well how this feels. The trauma kids endure with domestic violence is awful. I am witnessing the scars first hand. But, kids are resilient. All in all, their safety is paramount, and what you write of amounts to a very unstable, unsafe situation. For your grands, and you. Violent men are unpredictable. Please take care of yourself and know you have done much to try to help. I think you are right in realizing that the circumstances are more than you can handle. At least in foster care, the kids can receive proper health care and counseling. Many kids in this predicament begin to feel that it is their fault, develop low self esteem and failure to thrive. My grands have many issues from living as they did. Their parents are oblivious to the effects they have had on their children. I am hoping that my grands will recover with the help of counseling and a more stable environment. Hoping that they will know their worth and rise above the degradation they lived. I understand your hardship, the fears and needing to fortify yourself for whatever the future is. Stay strong, give it to your higher power when the burden is too heavy. Take extra good care of yourself and guard your heart. Much love, Leafy [/QUOTE]
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