Tiapet
Old Hand
Abbey let me share my moving story, this move here to NC. Maybe something in it will help you in some way I hope in the decision you now have to make. I just want you to know I understand the dilemma you face.
When I moved down here it was was back in August 2006 we started scouting places to stay (weren't real packed up yet either but SO had a job prospect on the line). We had just been here all of 4 days and I get a panicked call from my mother at 11pm at night. My father had bad pains in his stomach. He had made her stop at a local Md'Ds to use their facilities thinking that was the problem. He came back out and told her to drive and he curled up on the back seat as she continued to drive home (it was about another 8 miles). They get home and the pain was increasing. He again use the bathroom but by then was came out and curled up on their bed sweating profusely yet was chilled to the bone and in severe pain but wouldn't go to the hospital (no insurance). She (as usual) just couldn't get him to budge and figured calling me for advise somehow would work. It did! I told her in no uncertain terms to call 911 and get him to the hospital NOW!
She did exactly that. I knew in my heart something was very seriously wrong and it was. In the mean time SO, difficult child#1 and I started cram packing up our belongings in hotel and signed out. It was about midnight and I drove home knowing that by the time I got home I would no longer have a father, instinctively in my gut. I got another call back from my mother about 1a relaying that they were checking out my father and they have found and aortic anyeursm and were going to proceede with surgery. They did so and I would continue to get phone calls in the neck several hours through out the early morning hours as I drove regarding his condition. They would always tell me kind of neutral information (but I knew better - especially with my gut and with the diagnosis). It was a 10-12 hour drive I faced to get back to PA from NC.
I finally arrived back in PA to where they were and was told to go to a friend of the families house as that is where my mother was. She came out along with the husband of the friend (who was since deceased as well). She couldn't hold it any longer and told me my father had passed. In fact he has actually passed about 4AM. They couldn't control the bleeding and his heart had stopped several times and they attempted to restart it a final time and couldn't. *I was really angry that they lied to me for hours about his passing but they just didn't want me driving knowing this information, which I actually knew already in my heart*
Now I was faced with this fact of my father's death and SO needing to be moved in and settled by 9-11 (his death was 8-22). How the heck was I going to go back to NC and find a house to move into, get the difficult child's enrolled into school, finish packing (let alone literally move) yet be there for my mother who absolutely was and did loose her mind over my father's death? (they had JUST redid their 40th wedding anniversary vows 2 weeks before his death no less)?
It was a very wild time then and for months afterwards. Very very difficult and not one I would like to repeat any time soon to say the least.
What I want you to know is this - go, if you can. Maybe it will be expensive and the timing is not the greatest and it is very stressful I understand. You WILL make it through your move. Somehow. Things have a way of working out, they always do. Although this world can be unkind and throw every unmentionable road block you can think of (and even ones you can not) in our paths. We have to do what we have to do and we will come out on the other side alright.
I know that they say God doesn't give us more then we can handle and there is a reason for everything. I do question that sometimes but I also have seen/know it is true and often on the other side find those answers down the line. You will too.
Try thinking outside the box on this. Instead of trying to fly your normal path, fly in from a different direction and approach it from there. You might find flights are cheaper to alternative cities doing it that way. Part of my background is in the travel industry. I know also right now with the fuel situation the airlines are arbitrarily cancelling some flights on people too leaving some stranded for days so try NOT to fly to cities not to traveled either. Even flights into some BIG cities have gotten canceled (one leaving chicago recently got cancelled for 2 days going to TN). I'd hate to see you stranded somewhere in a time like this too. IF you DO happen to run into a situation like this make the airline accountable for it. They have to give you vouchers for meals and/or hotel if it is delayed for more then 4 hours I believe (hotel if longer then a certain time frame). Look up the airline you are traveling on for more specifics.
Lastly, I'm pretty sure you have a laptop, keep in contact with board members as I'm sure you will. We'll keep you company and I bet you may even get the opportunity to meet a few more to pass what otherwise might happen to be a bad time, a more enjoyable pleasant one!
Just my....tooo long ....02 cents.
Tia
When I moved down here it was was back in August 2006 we started scouting places to stay (weren't real packed up yet either but SO had a job prospect on the line). We had just been here all of 4 days and I get a panicked call from my mother at 11pm at night. My father had bad pains in his stomach. He had made her stop at a local Md'Ds to use their facilities thinking that was the problem. He came back out and told her to drive and he curled up on the back seat as she continued to drive home (it was about another 8 miles). They get home and the pain was increasing. He again use the bathroom but by then was came out and curled up on their bed sweating profusely yet was chilled to the bone and in severe pain but wouldn't go to the hospital (no insurance). She (as usual) just couldn't get him to budge and figured calling me for advise somehow would work. It did! I told her in no uncertain terms to call 911 and get him to the hospital NOW!
She did exactly that. I knew in my heart something was very seriously wrong and it was. In the mean time SO, difficult child#1 and I started cram packing up our belongings in hotel and signed out. It was about midnight and I drove home knowing that by the time I got home I would no longer have a father, instinctively in my gut. I got another call back from my mother about 1a relaying that they were checking out my father and they have found and aortic anyeursm and were going to proceede with surgery. They did so and I would continue to get phone calls in the neck several hours through out the early morning hours as I drove regarding his condition. They would always tell me kind of neutral information (but I knew better - especially with my gut and with the diagnosis). It was a 10-12 hour drive I faced to get back to PA from NC.
I finally arrived back in PA to where they were and was told to go to a friend of the families house as that is where my mother was. She came out along with the husband of the friend (who was since deceased as well). She couldn't hold it any longer and told me my father had passed. In fact he has actually passed about 4AM. They couldn't control the bleeding and his heart had stopped several times and they attempted to restart it a final time and couldn't. *I was really angry that they lied to me for hours about his passing but they just didn't want me driving knowing this information, which I actually knew already in my heart*
Now I was faced with this fact of my father's death and SO needing to be moved in and settled by 9-11 (his death was 8-22). How the heck was I going to go back to NC and find a house to move into, get the difficult child's enrolled into school, finish packing (let alone literally move) yet be there for my mother who absolutely was and did loose her mind over my father's death? (they had JUST redid their 40th wedding anniversary vows 2 weeks before his death no less)?
It was a very wild time then and for months afterwards. Very very difficult and not one I would like to repeat any time soon to say the least.
What I want you to know is this - go, if you can. Maybe it will be expensive and the timing is not the greatest and it is very stressful I understand. You WILL make it through your move. Somehow. Things have a way of working out, they always do. Although this world can be unkind and throw every unmentionable road block you can think of (and even ones you can not) in our paths. We have to do what we have to do and we will come out on the other side alright.
I know that they say God doesn't give us more then we can handle and there is a reason for everything. I do question that sometimes but I also have seen/know it is true and often on the other side find those answers down the line. You will too.
Try thinking outside the box on this. Instead of trying to fly your normal path, fly in from a different direction and approach it from there. You might find flights are cheaper to alternative cities doing it that way. Part of my background is in the travel industry. I know also right now with the fuel situation the airlines are arbitrarily cancelling some flights on people too leaving some stranded for days so try NOT to fly to cities not to traveled either. Even flights into some BIG cities have gotten canceled (one leaving chicago recently got cancelled for 2 days going to TN). I'd hate to see you stranded somewhere in a time like this too. IF you DO happen to run into a situation like this make the airline accountable for it. They have to give you vouchers for meals and/or hotel if it is delayed for more then 4 hours I believe (hotel if longer then a certain time frame). Look up the airline you are traveling on for more specifics.
Lastly, I'm pretty sure you have a laptop, keep in contact with board members as I'm sure you will. We'll keep you company and I bet you may even get the opportunity to meet a few more to pass what otherwise might happen to be a bad time, a more enjoyable pleasant one!
Just my....tooo long ....02 cents.
Tia
