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Just got a call from my dad... :(
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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 167147" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Deb, I say this from the bottom of my heart. There are times when nothing is needed to be done. </p><p>She made her choice to end treatment and live her life the way she wants. Don't force feed her fluids, or ensure or send her to the ER. Let her go the way she chose to go.</p><p>We all have to get to where your mother is. Do you want your kids deciding they want you to seek more treatment? You aren't ready to let her go but she wants to go. What are you trying to do and for whom? </p><p>I ask myself these questions often. I did it with my dad and when I was making life altering decisions for difficult child. I am now again in the situation of planning my mom's gradual end. I ask myself "what does she want?" "who do I serve when I make a decision?"</p><p></p><p>Your mom and your dad need to work this out and then make the decision known to you. The dehydration and lack of eating will happen over and over. She doesn't want or need to be saved by family or the medical community. </p><p>Go and say your good byes, talk to her and ask her the things you always wanted to ask. Listen to her story so you remember all that she was before she was your mom. Let her know she will be remembered.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 167147, member: 3"] Deb, I say this from the bottom of my heart. There are times when nothing is needed to be done. She made her choice to end treatment and live her life the way she wants. Don't force feed her fluids, or ensure or send her to the ER. Let her go the way she chose to go. We all have to get to where your mother is. Do you want your kids deciding they want you to seek more treatment? You aren't ready to let her go but she wants to go. What are you trying to do and for whom? I ask myself these questions often. I did it with my dad and when I was making life altering decisions for difficult child. I am now again in the situation of planning my mom's gradual end. I ask myself "what does she want?" "who do I serve when I make a decision?" Your mom and your dad need to work this out and then make the decision known to you. The dehydration and lack of eating will happen over and over. She doesn't want or need to be saved by family or the medical community. Go and say your good byes, talk to her and ask her the things you always wanted to ask. Listen to her story so you remember all that she was before she was your mom. Let her know she will be remembered. [/QUOTE]
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