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Just got back from difficult child's apartment
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 493606" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I think most folks when they leave their parents homes have to go to their first places and they arent what they left. In most cases, you dont move from middle class into middle class. You have to start from the beginning. I had a therapist once who said he had a son who moved out to live on his own and when they visited they just put blinders on and didnt stay long...lol. They figured it wasnt how they wanted to live but at least he wasnt living at home. </p><p></p><p>Your daughter will get there. She has to take the baby steps that move her forward. It starts with the yucky apt she can afford now but as she can afford better she will. As she does it on her own she will get the satisfaction of doing it on her own and that is something that no one can take away from her. That is what builds self esteem like nothing else can. That I can do it spirit. And that is what will keep her sober. If she thinks she cant do it, she will fail. If a trashy place is hers, so be it. She is doing it on her own. Be proud of her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 493606, member: 1514"] I think most folks when they leave their parents homes have to go to their first places and they arent what they left. In most cases, you dont move from middle class into middle class. You have to start from the beginning. I had a therapist once who said he had a son who moved out to live on his own and when they visited they just put blinders on and didnt stay long...lol. They figured it wasnt how they wanted to live but at least he wasnt living at home. Your daughter will get there. She has to take the baby steps that move her forward. It starts with the yucky apt she can afford now but as she can afford better she will. As she does it on her own she will get the satisfaction of doing it on her own and that is something that no one can take away from her. That is what builds self esteem like nothing else can. That I can do it spirit. And that is what will keep her sober. If she thinks she cant do it, she will fail. If a trashy place is hers, so be it. She is doing it on her own. Be proud of her. [/QUOTE]
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