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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 495742" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Nancy, every time I visit difficult child's apartment I get so overwhelmed with the clutter. The last time I was there I was cleaning up and lecturing then I had a bit of a light bulb moment about me telling him how to tend to his apartment. It's not mine to clean or organize and he has to get resentful if every time I'm there I'm harping on him so I apologized and stopped. It's his job to follow a cleaning check list every week and I need to let him do it(which he doesn't do often enough for my taste). I hate disorganization and clutter and mess. I believe it works against me in terms of thinking. Doesn't seem to bother difficult child and I already know his thinking is cluttered and disorganized. </p><p>I feel your pain. I think of what difficult child grew up with but none of what is valuable to me is valuable to him.</p><p>easy child is messy also(lazy) but I'm pretty sure when he is out of the dorm and in his own place things will change. Different personality and a bit of a germaphobe. </p><p>Now when they are home(they love their nice clean house) they have to clean up before they leave. It's rude to visit and leave a path of disaster and mess. They are good sports about it though. </p><p></p><p>I just shake my head.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 495742, member: 3"] Nancy, every time I visit difficult child's apartment I get so overwhelmed with the clutter. The last time I was there I was cleaning up and lecturing then I had a bit of a light bulb moment about me telling him how to tend to his apartment. It's not mine to clean or organize and he has to get resentful if every time I'm there I'm harping on him so I apologized and stopped. It's his job to follow a cleaning check list every week and I need to let him do it(which he doesn't do often enough for my taste). I hate disorganization and clutter and mess. I believe it works against me in terms of thinking. Doesn't seem to bother difficult child and I already know his thinking is cluttered and disorganized. I feel your pain. I think of what difficult child grew up with but none of what is valuable to me is valuable to him. easy child is messy also(lazy) but I'm pretty sure when he is out of the dorm and in his own place things will change. Different personality and a bit of a germaphobe. Now when they are home(they love their nice clean house) they have to clean up before they leave. It's rude to visit and leave a path of disaster and mess. They are good sports about it though. I just shake my head. [/QUOTE]
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