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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 460661" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I can only tell you what our therapist told us about lying........and it was HARDER than anything we ever did-----but it worked.....but it was hard......and I mean HARD. </p><p></p><p>You ASSUME every single thing he tells you for THREE weeks is a lie.......and then follow up and check up on him. </p><p></p><p>EVEN IF IT is something as SIMPLE as "I'm going to the bathroom" - you follow him. </p><p></p><p>"I'm going to my room" - you get up and check on him. </p><p>"I'm going outside." - You follow him</p><p>"I'm getting some chips." You go into the kitchen and get them for him</p><p></p><p>I'm going to take a shower - Get a chair and sit in the hall......</p><p></p><p>It will make YOU nuts before it does him -------but you basically treat him like a toddler and don't let him out of your sight. And you tell him "You can't tell the truth so I MUST watch you to make sure you are telling the truth.'</p><p></p><p>YES at 11 he will cry. YOU must maintain a stoic face. YES he will scream GET AWAY FROM ME.......You must remain stoic and keep watching him even when he begs you to leave him alone he will never lie -You say "I will decide when I think you can stop lying - YOU STOLE $20.00 STOPPING will be up to me." </p><p></p><p>You do this until he is near crazy.....(not kidding) and then as you decide to stop - You say "I am going to trust you to go to the bathroom by yourself CAN YOU HANDLE doing that and coming back here? IF not we start ALL over again? Build your trust with me and come back. IF you lie? We start over DO YOU UNDERSTAND?" </p><p></p><p>If he comes back? --He gets TWO freedoms at your choosing - IF he lies.....START ALL OVER AGAIN. </p><p></p><p>It works -------Dude even came HOME on time and didn't lie to us for a LONG time -----our problem was We couldn't be consistant with it because I had to work and DF refused to keep doing it while I was gone...but when we did it for -----may have even been six weeks - IT WORKED. Sounds nuts but it worked.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 460661, member: 4964"] I can only tell you what our therapist told us about lying........and it was HARDER than anything we ever did-----but it worked.....but it was hard......and I mean HARD. You ASSUME every single thing he tells you for THREE weeks is a lie.......and then follow up and check up on him. EVEN IF IT is something as SIMPLE as "I'm going to the bathroom" - you follow him. "I'm going to my room" - you get up and check on him. "I'm going outside." - You follow him "I'm getting some chips." You go into the kitchen and get them for him I'm going to take a shower - Get a chair and sit in the hall...... It will make YOU nuts before it does him -------but you basically treat him like a toddler and don't let him out of your sight. And you tell him "You can't tell the truth so I MUST watch you to make sure you are telling the truth.' YES at 11 he will cry. YOU must maintain a stoic face. YES he will scream GET AWAY FROM ME.......You must remain stoic and keep watching him even when he begs you to leave him alone he will never lie -You say "I will decide when I think you can stop lying - YOU STOLE $20.00 STOPPING will be up to me." You do this until he is near crazy.....(not kidding) and then as you decide to stop - You say "I am going to trust you to go to the bathroom by yourself CAN YOU HANDLE doing that and coming back here? IF not we start ALL over again? Build your trust with me and come back. IF you lie? We start over DO YOU UNDERSTAND?" If he comes back? --He gets TWO freedoms at your choosing - IF he lies.....START ALL OVER AGAIN. It works -------Dude even came HOME on time and didn't lie to us for a LONG time -----our problem was We couldn't be consistant with it because I had to work and DF refused to keep doing it while I was gone...but when we did it for -----may have even been six weeks - IT WORKED. Sounds nuts but it worked. [/QUOTE]
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