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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 239763" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>I guess I don't understand then Ropefree. You know they are breaking the law, you come here and post and post and post about the illtreatement by the school of your son yet, in your words, <strong>"I am aware that they have been breaking the law and I would not be the person who is going to go through all the fertilizing substances to achieve legal status for this as i have my own back issues and the only help I can get where I am is also just junk people who are so indifferant that taking the teachers one at a time and talking to each is the best plan I can do."</strong></p><p> </p><p>You don't need to get any help from anyone. It will actually tax you more to deal with each teacher one by one (and that doesn't appear to be working either). YOU need to be the one who proceeds from here and fully advocate for your son. That is why I suggested the testing be requested by certified mail. It is also why I suggested you go over the Special Education board and find the regs so you can quote them in your letter. Very often, all it takes is a copy of your certified letter being sent to the district for them to understand they are not dealing with a dummy parent. Unfortunately, many school administrators will do as little as possible to help our difficult children because many parents do not know to what extent their child is guaranteed an education. A very sad commentary but true.</p><p> </p><p>Often schools will see a parent coming in and think to themselves, "Oh, here she comes again to complain." There can see us as interfering and meddlesome. However, if they see us as knowledgable and versed in the law, it's a whole different matter. I can't tell you the impact I made when my son went to middle school. His first IEP team meeting included 7 various school and district attendees. I had my huge three-ring binder which included copies of all his IEPs, old 504s, all his report cards, all coorespondance with school since he was in second grade, copies of all his IEP testing from three years before, my regs and research.</p><p> </p><p>When substantiating my request for technology testing (my difficult child has an issue with the actual process of writing) I showed them the results of some of his testing as well as a comment from his 5th grade teacher than his standardized testing in writing at the end of the year be modified for dictation since she saw an issue with the writing. The compliance person, district psychiatrist and behavioral specialists said they were really impressed with me. They had not seen a parent so prepared and stocked with backup. It comes accross as a parent who is a true advocate for their child not a worrisome mom.</p><p> </p><p>And, let me tell you, my knowledge base is nothing compared to some of the warrior moms around here!!!!! It doesn't take much for a school to see that you mean business. But you need to show that you know the law and know that they are not compliance. Every school that has a Special Education has someone who is their compliance officer. Perhpas a well-worded letter to that person is in order.</p><p> </p><p>In regards to you overhearing someone at the school make the 30-day comment, so what? It at least shows that someone knows the law. If you have to wait 30 days for them to realize you mean business, so be it. It is the law afterall. Many times those 30 days are times that parents brush up on the law and research various accoms and mods the can request in their child's IEP.</p><p> </p><p>In regards to your information, I understand your resistance in putting too much information "out there" and respect it. However, knowing the age of your difficult child and what grade he is in can help those of us that have been there offer you age-appropriate suggestions. I did vastly different things for my difficult child to motivate him (like your difficult child he "smart as a button" but needs a shove) when he was in third grade, than I do now that he is 13.</p><p> </p><p>I am sorry that you are in such pain with your back. I'm sure it makes everything in your life tougher. I don't post the above information to negate that pain in your life. I just know that getting him an IEP now that can follow him for years to come will make things easier for you in the long run. You can than hold everyone legally responsible for the failure to follow the plan. However, the best benefit will be trully tailoring an long-term education plan that meets the needs of your son. And, you need to stick it to those idiots!</p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 239763, member: 805"] I guess I don't understand then Ropefree. You know they are breaking the law, you come here and post and post and post about the illtreatement by the school of your son yet, in your words, [B]"I am aware that they have been breaking the law and I would not be the person who is going to go through all the fertilizing substances to achieve legal status for this as i have my own back issues and the only help I can get where I am is also just junk people who are so indifferant that taking the teachers one at a time and talking to each is the best plan I can do."[/B] You don't need to get any help from anyone. It will actually tax you more to deal with each teacher one by one (and that doesn't appear to be working either). YOU need to be the one who proceeds from here and fully advocate for your son. That is why I suggested the testing be requested by certified mail. It is also why I suggested you go over the Special Education board and find the regs so you can quote them in your letter. Very often, all it takes is a copy of your certified letter being sent to the district for them to understand they are not dealing with a dummy parent. Unfortunately, many school administrators will do as little as possible to help our difficult children because many parents do not know to what extent their child is guaranteed an education. A very sad commentary but true. Often schools will see a parent coming in and think to themselves, "Oh, here she comes again to complain." There can see us as interfering and meddlesome. However, if they see us as knowledgable and versed in the law, it's a whole different matter. I can't tell you the impact I made when my son went to middle school. His first IEP team meeting included 7 various school and district attendees. I had my huge three-ring binder which included copies of all his IEPs, old 504s, all his report cards, all coorespondance with school since he was in second grade, copies of all his IEP testing from three years before, my regs and research. When substantiating my request for technology testing (my difficult child has an issue with the actual process of writing) I showed them the results of some of his testing as well as a comment from his 5th grade teacher than his standardized testing in writing at the end of the year be modified for dictation since she saw an issue with the writing. The compliance person, district psychiatrist and behavioral specialists said they were really impressed with me. They had not seen a parent so prepared and stocked with backup. It comes accross as a parent who is a true advocate for their child not a worrisome mom. And, let me tell you, my knowledge base is nothing compared to some of the warrior moms around here!!!!! It doesn't take much for a school to see that you mean business. But you need to show that you know the law and know that they are not compliance. Every school that has a Special Education has someone who is their compliance officer. Perhpas a well-worded letter to that person is in order. In regards to you overhearing someone at the school make the 30-day comment, so what? It at least shows that someone knows the law. If you have to wait 30 days for them to realize you mean business, so be it. It is the law afterall. Many times those 30 days are times that parents brush up on the law and research various accoms and mods the can request in their child's IEP. In regards to your information, I understand your resistance in putting too much information "out there" and respect it. However, knowing the age of your difficult child and what grade he is in can help those of us that have been there offer you age-appropriate suggestions. I did vastly different things for my difficult child to motivate him (like your difficult child he "smart as a button" but needs a shove) when he was in third grade, than I do now that he is 13. I am sorry that you are in such pain with your back. I'm sure it makes everything in your life tougher. I don't post the above information to negate that pain in your life. I just know that getting him an IEP now that can follow him for years to come will make things easier for you in the long run. You can than hold everyone legally responsible for the failure to follow the plan. However, the best benefit will be trully tailoring an long-term education plan that meets the needs of your son. And, you need to stick it to those idiots! Sharon [/QUOTE]
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