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Just had son arrested.
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 615258" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Welcome deerhunter, I am glad you found us. I am sorry you are going through this with your son. Many of us here have been in similar shoes. It's not easy, but yes, I think you did the right thing.</p><p></p><p>You may want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post. Usually, by the time we find this site, we have all already done everything we possible can for our adult kids. I'm sure you have too. It is part of our parental love for our kids that keeps us looking and looking for more that WE can do, when in reality it is entirely up to your son. </p><p></p><p>You are allowing him to experience the natural consequences of his choices. That is real life. Anything other then that would be enabling him which in essence as someone here just recently pointed out, is disabling them. </p><p></p><p>Of course you want him to get the help he needs. Unfortunately, until HE wants help, nothing will happen. He is an adult male who has made some serious bad choices and it looks like now is the time for him to face those choices. </p><p></p><p>You did the right thing. Keep posting, it helps. I'm glad you're here. </p><p></p><p>There will be others along who are well versed in substance abuse................wishing you peace of mind.............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 615258, member: 13542"] Welcome deerhunter, I am glad you found us. I am sorry you are going through this with your son. Many of us here have been in similar shoes. It's not easy, but yes, I think you did the right thing. You may want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post. Usually, by the time we find this site, we have all already done everything we possible can for our adult kids. I'm sure you have too. It is part of our parental love for our kids that keeps us looking and looking for more that WE can do, when in reality it is entirely up to your son. You are allowing him to experience the natural consequences of his choices. That is real life. Anything other then that would be enabling him which in essence as someone here just recently pointed out, is disabling them. Of course you want him to get the help he needs. Unfortunately, until HE wants help, nothing will happen. He is an adult male who has made some serious bad choices and it looks like now is the time for him to face those choices. You did the right thing. Keep posting, it helps. I'm glad you're here. There will be others along who are well versed in substance abuse................wishing you peace of mind............. [/QUOTE]
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