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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 615272" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>J, I just read your signature and hadn't realized you were dealing with a difficult child with a heroin addiction. I understand your fears as my difficult child went down that path. She OD'd on our living room couch and my husband found her in the nick of time. He kept her alive with chest compressions until the EMT's got there and gave her Narcan to bring her back around.</p><p></p><p>It was at that point that we turned to an Interventionist who helped us get our difficult child out of our home (we had to go to family court and get a temporary protection order based on her bringing heroin into our house). Once our difficult child realized that she had to leave, she agreed to go to a 3-month residential treatment center in another state. She is still living and working there.</p><p></p><p>We made it very clear with the help of her treatment team that coming back to live with us was not an option. I think that you and your wife are going to have to come to that realization at some point. Everyone gets to that point at a different time but most of us have come to realize that letting our drug using adult kids live at home just enables them to live comfortably while using. My therapist said that we were indirectly supplying our difficult child with drugs by letting her live in our house so she could spend her money on drugs and alcohol rather than living expenses.</p><p></p><p>Check the laws in your state. Many say that you have to give your adult child an eviction notice and follow the eviction process even if they do not pay you rent. That is the law in my state and my difficult child knew it and threw it in our faces when we tried to kick her out. That is why we had to go the route of getting a TPO.</p><p></p><p>It goes against every fiber of our being to throw out our children fearing that they will end up homeless and hungry. Amazingly, it seems like every difficult child on this board managed to land on their feet. They are amazingly resourceful when they have to be.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 615272, member: 1967"] J, I just read your signature and hadn't realized you were dealing with a difficult child with a heroin addiction. I understand your fears as my difficult child went down that path. She OD'd on our living room couch and my husband found her in the nick of time. He kept her alive with chest compressions until the EMT's got there and gave her Narcan to bring her back around. It was at that point that we turned to an Interventionist who helped us get our difficult child out of our home (we had to go to family court and get a temporary protection order based on her bringing heroin into our house). Once our difficult child realized that she had to leave, she agreed to go to a 3-month residential treatment center in another state. She is still living and working there. We made it very clear with the help of her treatment team that coming back to live with us was not an option. I think that you and your wife are going to have to come to that realization at some point. Everyone gets to that point at a different time but most of us have come to realize that letting our drug using adult kids live at home just enables them to live comfortably while using. My therapist said that we were indirectly supplying our difficult child with drugs by letting her live in our house so she could spend her money on drugs and alcohol rather than living expenses. Check the laws in your state. Many say that you have to give your adult child an eviction notice and follow the eviction process even if they do not pay you rent. That is the law in my state and my difficult child knew it and threw it in our faces when we tried to kick her out. That is why we had to go the route of getting a TPO. It goes against every fiber of our being to throw out our children fearing that they will end up homeless and hungry. Amazingly, it seems like every difficult child on this board managed to land on their feet. They are amazingly resourceful when they have to be. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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