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Just musing: Whom do you tell? Friends? Family? No one?
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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 460062" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Signorina, the attitude of us parents evolves with time. I share superficially what I feel comfortable with but I don't lie. No way is my son going to be in the closet. I fool no one anyhow. When things were ugly, I kept responses short and sweet. Friends know you are suffering. </p><p>Interestingly enough, the friends who knew difficult child all his life and we had kids all about the same age, while not necessarily agreeing with my approach continue to love my difficult child and congratulate him on his successes. Just as I revel in their children's success. One is going to medication school, one is getting married soon, many are pretty successful but none worked as hard to have a life as my son. I have to honor his struggle. </p><p>I do not give the day to day stresses with anyone but husband and sometimes my siblings. No one really wants to know the day to day pain. Sort of like listening to someone who has just started the divorce proceedings. The details are painful emotionally and not all of it needs to be shared. No one really wants to know the intimate details of any families struggle. </p><p>Get comfortable with the fact that your difficult child is struggling and you are working hard to be the best parent you can be. The more comfortable you are with the fact that you have a difficult child and not a perfect child, the more comfortable everyone else will be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 460062, member: 3"] Signorina, the attitude of us parents evolves with time. I share superficially what I feel comfortable with but I don't lie. No way is my son going to be in the closet. I fool no one anyhow. When things were ugly, I kept responses short and sweet. Friends know you are suffering. Interestingly enough, the friends who knew difficult child all his life and we had kids all about the same age, while not necessarily agreeing with my approach continue to love my difficult child and congratulate him on his successes. Just as I revel in their children's success. One is going to medication school, one is getting married soon, many are pretty successful but none worked as hard to have a life as my son. I have to honor his struggle. I do not give the day to day stresses with anyone but husband and sometimes my siblings. No one really wants to know the day to day pain. Sort of like listening to someone who has just started the divorce proceedings. The details are painful emotionally and not all of it needs to be shared. No one really wants to know the intimate details of any families struggle. Get comfortable with the fact that your difficult child is struggling and you are working hard to be the best parent you can be. The more comfortable you are with the fact that you have a difficult child and not a perfect child, the more comfortable everyone else will be. [/QUOTE]
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