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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 245076" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Hi, TL! I can't answer all your questions but I will suggest that you take it easy on yourself. I know it's hard and you're feeling a lot of pressure, but sd's and county people will just trample on us sometimes and use the things we care about most to get us to do what they want.</p><p></p><p>1st, you are still dealing with your H's death, and that's a process of it's own. You have your own health and issues you have been trying to contend with too. On top of that, now you are suddenly a single parent of 2 difficult child's with even more difficult child issues than typical difficult child's. That's more than anyone could adjust to quickly. It might take a year to get a grip on this- as long as you are hanging in there and caring for the tweedles, I doubt anyone can find any solid ground to remove a tweedle.</p><p></p><p>I personally think that as long as you are moving in the right direction, if DSS shows up at your door and you explain all you are dealing with, they should leave admiring you, not blaming you, and certainly not taking one or both of the kids. You're probably aware, some sd's will try to keep the focus on home life and parenting rather than take responsibility for helping to accommodate a child at school. You can't be expected to have a good grip on all these adjustments in this amount of time. If it seemed like you did, it would look suspicious, in my humble opinion.</p><p></p><p>You're doing a great job. Keep hanging in there. I hope you can choose a couple of friends or family members or tdocs and just let them know- you need some more help for a while to get things in order with the tweedles and your home. The sd can't run everything- it will be ok.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 245076, member: 3699"] Hi, TL! I can't answer all your questions but I will suggest that you take it easy on yourself. I know it's hard and you're feeling a lot of pressure, but sd's and county people will just trample on us sometimes and use the things we care about most to get us to do what they want. 1st, you are still dealing with your H's death, and that's a process of it's own. You have your own health and issues you have been trying to contend with too. On top of that, now you are suddenly a single parent of 2 difficult child's with even more difficult child issues than typical difficult child's. That's more than anyone could adjust to quickly. It might take a year to get a grip on this- as long as you are hanging in there and caring for the tweedles, I doubt anyone can find any solid ground to remove a tweedle. I personally think that as long as you are moving in the right direction, if DSS shows up at your door and you explain all you are dealing with, they should leave admiring you, not blaming you, and certainly not taking one or both of the kids. You're probably aware, some sd's will try to keep the focus on home life and parenting rather than take responsibility for helping to accommodate a child at school. You can't be expected to have a good grip on all these adjustments in this amount of time. If it seemed like you did, it would look suspicious, in my humble opinion. You're doing a great job. Keep hanging in there. I hope you can choose a couple of friends or family members or tdocs and just let them know- you need some more help for a while to get things in order with the tweedles and your home. The sd can't run everything- it will be ok. [/QUOTE]
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