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<blockquote data-quote="irishabby" data-source="post: 240433" data-attributes="member: 6767"><p>Hi there, I have four children, 17, 16, 14 and a half and 4. Older two are boys, and have never had any problems at all. The youngest of 4 is also a dream. The 14 year old girl is an extreme nightmare - been diagnosed by psychologist as having conduct disorder and anti-social personality as well. My husband and I went a step further and had a psychiatric evaluation done as well and he gave the same evaluation. This kiddo has spent 6 weeks in a girls home (got kicked out of that), takes off for days at a time, has broken into the house on several occasions, steals regularly, drinks and uses drugs. The experts advice "ignore her, do as many things without her, you've done everything a parent can do, lock her out" etc. I have tried everything I can, and because we are actually good parents - there is nothing in the system to help. Counselling doesn't work, the psychologist said this kid is dancing with a whole lot of acting and there is nothing underneath. The disruption is constant, and its taking its toll on everyones health and well being. And, what is extremely worrying is our safety when she is in the house, or sneaks into the house. Have had to put locks on every window and door. She is able to survive out there in the wide world by lying, stealing and so-on. The police have told me that despite her being a minor they can't force her to do a damn thing. The child protection agency says "oh, just ring the police and report that she has run away again". </p><p> </p><p>I have tried every which way to communicate, but as you well know reason here doesn't exist. Not in anyway that I have come to know anyhow. Anyway, I have come to the point where I feel that she has so destroyed the trust/love - and the behaviour is abusive, deliberate and manipulative. I also worry about her targeting the boys and younger sister.</p><p> </p><p>Is it normal to wish she didn't exist - its been a year and a half - and I really feel as though I have no love for her at all. When she is not here the entire house operates in harmony, and I wanted to know if anyone out there knows if these kids turn the corner at some point, or is she heading for jail/juvenile system.</p><p> </p><p>Thanks<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite5" alt=":confused:" title="Confused :confused:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":confused:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="irishabby, post: 240433, member: 6767"] Hi there, I have four children, 17, 16, 14 and a half and 4. Older two are boys, and have never had any problems at all. The youngest of 4 is also a dream. The 14 year old girl is an extreme nightmare - been diagnosed by psychologist as having conduct disorder and anti-social personality as well. My husband and I went a step further and had a psychiatric evaluation done as well and he gave the same evaluation. This kiddo has spent 6 weeks in a girls home (got kicked out of that), takes off for days at a time, has broken into the house on several occasions, steals regularly, drinks and uses drugs. The experts advice "ignore her, do as many things without her, you've done everything a parent can do, lock her out" etc. I have tried everything I can, and because we are actually good parents - there is nothing in the system to help. Counselling doesn't work, the psychologist said this kid is dancing with a whole lot of acting and there is nothing underneath. The disruption is constant, and its taking its toll on everyones health and well being. And, what is extremely worrying is our safety when she is in the house, or sneaks into the house. Have had to put locks on every window and door. She is able to survive out there in the wide world by lying, stealing and so-on. The police have told me that despite her being a minor they can't force her to do a damn thing. The child protection agency says "oh, just ring the police and report that she has run away again". I have tried every which way to communicate, but as you well know reason here doesn't exist. Not in anyway that I have come to know anyhow. Anyway, I have come to the point where I feel that she has so destroyed the trust/love - and the behaviour is abusive, deliberate and manipulative. I also worry about her targeting the boys and younger sister. Is it normal to wish she didn't exist - its been a year and a half - and I really feel as though I have no love for her at all. When she is not here the entire house operates in harmony, and I wanted to know if anyone out there knows if these kids turn the corner at some point, or is she heading for jail/juvenile system. Thanks:confused1: [/QUOTE]
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