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<blockquote data-quote="Waking" data-source="post: 744158" data-attributes="member: 23493"><p>Waking, sorry to hijack your thread! I hope it's been informative, or at least somewhat entertaining.</p></blockquote><p></p><p>Oh my gosh, absolutely don't be sorry I am learning it and reading and smiling and nodding my head. I love this interaction. DS3 has a very flat affect. He can never spend more than 2 hours in any social situation. The one time he has ever been asked to spend the night at a friend's house, he asked me "do I have to?" I said no, but I thought he might be afraid of getting home sick. So we did a playdate and he actually told me, only a couple of hours okay? Like HE was accomodating ME.</p><p>He's grossly involved in his computer, he is teaching himself coding currently and does very well socially on his headset while playing his games. So, we didn't think he had any issues, just didn't like people in person. If that makes any sense.</p><p></p><p>My husband is very uncomfortable in social situations with people who consider themselves sophisticated as well.</p><p></p><p>In regards to sports, all of my boys are good athletes. But they always hyper-focus I guess. I have not mentioned DS2 who do I find the most unlike my other three children. If I have to label, he would be the most "normal." (Im not trying to be offensive and apologize if my wording is incorrect) He's the most like me. I guess you would call it neurotypical? DD1 is my youngest. She is social, smart, well behaved...but seems years older than her age. Jury still out there. </p><p></p><p>My husband was a semi-pro athlete who many people disliked because he is extremely excellent at the sport and very introverted and quiet so he comes off like a jerk who possibly is arrogant . But he is so not arrogant oh, I would call it socially awkward instead. He hyper focused so much on the sport that he excelled at it. He says for him this is where he felt comfortable. Not with the other kids or people, just with his own skill and belief in himself. He said every time he made a mistake he would analyze it and try to figure out something else to do so he wouldn't make that same mistake again. Very strong competitive drive. He was a handshake away from being a pro athlete. And he never told me about this(All b4 we met) but when I found out and asked why, his response was "because I didn't go pro so I didn't feel like it was a big deal to tell you." (I thought...thats strange, if it was such a huge part of your life)</p><p></p><p>So now we are at a time where his children are in the same sport. He was put in a position of power in the association because people DO know his history of his skill. People think he comes off like a know-it-all. he has said, " I'm not trying to seem like a know-it-all I'm just trying to share what I know." In actuality everybody recognizes that he is the best person for the job with the most knowledge and skill. I have heard the phrase, "He is a dick, but he knows what he is talking about." so I spend my time trying to help him to be more gentle....maybe this is why?</p><p>[/QUOTE]</p>
[QUOTE="Waking, post: 744158, member: 23493"] Waking, sorry to hijack your thread! I hope it's been informative, or at least somewhat entertaining.[/QUOTE] Oh my gosh, absolutely don't be sorry I am learning it and reading and smiling and nodding my head. I love this interaction. DS3 has a very flat affect. He can never spend more than 2 hours in any social situation. The one time he has ever been asked to spend the night at a friend's house, he asked me "do I have to?" I said no, but I thought he might be afraid of getting home sick. So we did a playdate and he actually told me, only a couple of hours okay? Like HE was accomodating ME. He's grossly involved in his computer, he is teaching himself coding currently and does very well socially on his headset while playing his games. So, we didn't think he had any issues, just didn't like people in person. If that makes any sense. My husband is very uncomfortable in social situations with people who consider themselves sophisticated as well. In regards to sports, all of my boys are good athletes. But they always hyper-focus I guess. I have not mentioned DS2 who do I find the most unlike my other three children. If I have to label, he would be the most "normal." (Im not trying to be offensive and apologize if my wording is incorrect) He's the most like me. I guess you would call it neurotypical? DD1 is my youngest. She is social, smart, well behaved...but seems years older than her age. Jury still out there. My husband was a semi-pro athlete who many people disliked because he is extremely excellent at the sport and very introverted and quiet so he comes off like a jerk who possibly is arrogant . But he is so not arrogant oh, I would call it socially awkward instead. He hyper focused so much on the sport that he excelled at it. He says for him this is where he felt comfortable. Not with the other kids or people, just with his own skill and belief in himself. He said every time he made a mistake he would analyze it and try to figure out something else to do so he wouldn't make that same mistake again. Very strong competitive drive. He was a handshake away from being a pro athlete. And he never told me about this(All b4 we met) but when I found out and asked why, his response was "because I didn't go pro so I didn't feel like it was a big deal to tell you." (I thought...thats strange, if it was such a huge part of your life) So now we are at a time where his children are in the same sport. He was put in a position of power in the association because people DO know his history of his skill. People think he comes off like a know-it-all. he has said, " I'm not trying to seem like a know-it-all I'm just trying to share what I know." In actuality everybody recognizes that he is the best person for the job with the most knowledge and skill. I have heard the phrase, "He is a dick, but he knows what he is talking about." so I spend my time trying to help him to be more gentle....maybe this is why? [/QUOTE]
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