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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 744169" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>When I say I've outgrown social issues, I don't necessarily mean I like or need to be around people more - only that I fit in better when I <em>am </em>around people. I've pretty well mastered the skills, I think. But I could be perfectly happy living alone, and even within my great relationship, I need a lot of alone time (she does too, so it works). I work from home, and often go a whole week or more without actually leaving my property or seeing anyone except R. I'm not lonely. I will certainly never be a party animal! (But if you're having an animal party, I'm down for that...I relate a whole lot better to animals than people!) </p><p></p><p>As far as being tongue tied goes, one of the things my wonderful boss made me do was join Toastmasters. I hated it. It was excruciating. But it worked. In addition to formal speaking, they do something called table topics, where you are given a random topic and then just told to riff on it for three minutes. Or debate it. I never enjoyed the process, but I DID get better. Just like my abysmal motor skills got better doing martial arts. We can all get better at anything we practice, even if it's not something that comes naturally. We may not ever be GREAT at things that go against our core wiring, but we can get better! </p><p></p><p>I've also learned it's a whole lot easier to ask people questions about themselves than worry about what to say. Most people love talking about themselves, so if you do that, they don't really notice you're not talking! </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I hereby give you permission to be as weird as you want to be, with or without a label! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> I've come to the conclusion that we're pretty much ALL weird in some ways. Some of us just more noticeably than others.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 744169, member: 23349"] When I say I've outgrown social issues, I don't necessarily mean I like or need to be around people more - only that I fit in better when I [I]am [/I]around people. I've pretty well mastered the skills, I think. But I could be perfectly happy living alone, and even within my great relationship, I need a lot of alone time (she does too, so it works). I work from home, and often go a whole week or more without actually leaving my property or seeing anyone except R. I'm not lonely. I will certainly never be a party animal! (But if you're having an animal party, I'm down for that...I relate a whole lot better to animals than people!) As far as being tongue tied goes, one of the things my wonderful boss made me do was join Toastmasters. I hated it. It was excruciating. But it worked. In addition to formal speaking, they do something called table topics, where you are given a random topic and then just told to riff on it for three minutes. Or debate it. I never enjoyed the process, but I DID get better. Just like my abysmal motor skills got better doing martial arts. We can all get better at anything we practice, even if it's not something that comes naturally. We may not ever be GREAT at things that go against our core wiring, but we can get better! I've also learned it's a whole lot easier to ask people questions about themselves than worry about what to say. Most people love talking about themselves, so if you do that, they don't really notice you're not talking! I hereby give you permission to be as weird as you want to be, with or without a label! ;) I've come to the conclusion that we're pretty much ALL weird in some ways. Some of us just more noticeably than others. [/QUOTE]
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