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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 267311" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Anaheimfan, I'm so glad you started this thread. It's thought provoking.</p><p></p><p>I am the eternal sunny optimist (you know, one of those sickening morning people who drive everyone else crazy with their happy-happy-joy-joy). I usually go into a situation expecting the best, and often wild and crazy happy things happen.</p><p></p><p>My husband, on the other hand, is an uber-realist. Not a pessimist, but always prepared and ready to deal with any emergencies that might come along. He checks exits, plans escape routes, identifies suspicious characters, and is always on the alert. He also worries to death about dire things happening. All. The. Time. </p><p></p><p>Here's an example...</p><p>One day a few summers ago, we came home from work, looked out the back window and saw difficult child (trained as a lifeguard, and an excellent swimmer) floating in the hot tub. My first thought was, "Oh. difficult child looks like he's having a good time out there." husband's first thought was, "Oh My GOD he's dead!" He was fine, and having a good time out there, just as I thought.</p><p></p><p>husband is a great guy to have around when something terrible does happen, because he's level headed, has a plan, and can give clear direction to the panicky people who would otherwise get us all killed.</p><p></p><p>Thing is, in an emergency situation, I react the same way husband does. I know where the exits are, have a good idea of who the creepy ones are in a crowd, and react well during a crisis (and then faint afterward, once I know everyone is safe).</p><p></p><p>I don't think there's any real psychological problem with focusing on the doom and gloom, as long as you break out of it sometimes and have others near you who can offer you another perspective. Sometimes I need to be talked down out of the clouds, when a situation is actually that bad, and I can't just Pollyanna my way out of it. Balance. That's the key, I think.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 267311, member: 3907"] Anaheimfan, I'm so glad you started this thread. It's thought provoking. I am the eternal sunny optimist (you know, one of those sickening morning people who drive everyone else crazy with their happy-happy-joy-joy). I usually go into a situation expecting the best, and often wild and crazy happy things happen. My husband, on the other hand, is an uber-realist. Not a pessimist, but always prepared and ready to deal with any emergencies that might come along. He checks exits, plans escape routes, identifies suspicious characters, and is always on the alert. He also worries to death about dire things happening. All. The. Time. Here's an example... One day a few summers ago, we came home from work, looked out the back window and saw difficult child (trained as a lifeguard, and an excellent swimmer) floating in the hot tub. My first thought was, "Oh. difficult child looks like he's having a good time out there." husband's first thought was, "Oh My GOD he's dead!" He was fine, and having a good time out there, just as I thought. husband is a great guy to have around when something terrible does happen, because he's level headed, has a plan, and can give clear direction to the panicky people who would otherwise get us all killed. Thing is, in an emergency situation, I react the same way husband does. I know where the exits are, have a good idea of who the creepy ones are in a crowd, and react well during a crisis (and then faint afterward, once I know everyone is safe). I don't think there's any real psychological problem with focusing on the doom and gloom, as long as you break out of it sometimes and have others near you who can offer you another perspective. Sometimes I need to be talked down out of the clouds, when a situation is actually that bad, and I can't just Pollyanna my way out of it. Balance. That's the key, I think. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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