Hi every one....been away, alone with my 2 daughter!
First I must say that IN MY OPINION my oldest behaved very well....Sadly I must add that I'm starting to see more and more aspie traids.....don't know if this is good or bad. We have our next appointment with psychiatrist at end of month!
Ok...this was my first visit to my parents since all the 'trouble' started with daughter 3 months ago...dr visits, diagnosed exct! So I thought this is the right time to educate my parents regarding my sons 'condition'....Oh boy...was this difficult! The problems started when me and my mom had to go out for a whole day leaving my 2 boys with my dad....not good for my sons anxiety....ok, so behaviour started picking up....he got more irritated, moody and wanted to be alone with me, me and the kids stayed together in seperate house from my parents(thank goodness). 2 Days later I had to take my mom to dr so we were away for 4 -5 more hours...So my son started phoning me every 30 min, phoned his dad, at work, even phoned his nanny at home! He was becoming desperate! Started crying over the phone...I knew he is becoming sensory overloaded! So that evening his verbal abuse became a little worse, again...not bad in my opinion, just saying once I'm silly infront of my parents. He started covering himself with blanket, got some odd looks from my parents.
I knew what was going on, he picked up on the increasing tention between me and my parents, because my mom started making remarks that my son is minipulative and very rude. That I'm allowing him to rule my life (I was trying to cut out on the stimuli, listening to his needs).
So the evening before the last, I went into an emotional meltdown, because my mom kept on telling me how I'm the reason for my sons bad behavior, that he will cause me many tears in the future...I kept on telling her that we are receiving help, that plenty of the behavior is out of his control, that I think he is doing well....So she just kept on rolling her eyes exct, so I started crying and screaming to her that 'she knows nothing'! It was so bad, I feel so ashamed, but it was as if I could hear myself from a distance but couldn't stop! I then just stood up and took my kids and left.
The next day, my son was back to his old loving self.....only complained of bad headache.....He tried to be very nice to my mom...She ignored him when he talked to her, even being utterly nonverbally rude to him...My poor son couln't understand halve of it (because of misreading the non verbal...didn't even know what was wrong). He felt so sad he started crying....so I took both kids out for the day...later she tried to be bit nicer, but we had to leave next day.
It's so sad this situation.....they stay 2 days travel distance from us, they are getting very old. It's very difficult for me to accomodate my parents and children!
First I must say that IN MY OPINION my oldest behaved very well....Sadly I must add that I'm starting to see more and more aspie traids.....don't know if this is good or bad. We have our next appointment with psychiatrist at end of month!
Ok...this was my first visit to my parents since all the 'trouble' started with daughter 3 months ago...dr visits, diagnosed exct! So I thought this is the right time to educate my parents regarding my sons 'condition'....Oh boy...was this difficult! The problems started when me and my mom had to go out for a whole day leaving my 2 boys with my dad....not good for my sons anxiety....ok, so behaviour started picking up....he got more irritated, moody and wanted to be alone with me, me and the kids stayed together in seperate house from my parents(thank goodness). 2 Days later I had to take my mom to dr so we were away for 4 -5 more hours...So my son started phoning me every 30 min, phoned his dad, at work, even phoned his nanny at home! He was becoming desperate! Started crying over the phone...I knew he is becoming sensory overloaded! So that evening his verbal abuse became a little worse, again...not bad in my opinion, just saying once I'm silly infront of my parents. He started covering himself with blanket, got some odd looks from my parents.
I knew what was going on, he picked up on the increasing tention between me and my parents, because my mom started making remarks that my son is minipulative and very rude. That I'm allowing him to rule my life (I was trying to cut out on the stimuli, listening to his needs).
So the evening before the last, I went into an emotional meltdown, because my mom kept on telling me how I'm the reason for my sons bad behavior, that he will cause me many tears in the future...I kept on telling her that we are receiving help, that plenty of the behavior is out of his control, that I think he is doing well....So she just kept on rolling her eyes exct, so I started crying and screaming to her that 'she knows nothing'! It was so bad, I feel so ashamed, but it was as if I could hear myself from a distance but couldn't stop! I then just stood up and took my kids and left.
The next day, my son was back to his old loving self.....only complained of bad headache.....He tried to be very nice to my mom...She ignored him when he talked to her, even being utterly nonverbally rude to him...My poor son couln't understand halve of it (because of misreading the non verbal...didn't even know what was wrong). He felt so sad he started crying....so I took both kids out for the day...later she tried to be bit nicer, but we had to leave next day.
It's so sad this situation.....they stay 2 days travel distance from us, they are getting very old. It's very difficult for me to accomodate my parents and children!