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I am so ready for school to be out...and so is my difficult child!!! I think he is just worn out with school and is ready to hang it up. We only have 5 more days and if only he could stay out of the office until then! It seems that he is in the office or his teachers are calling me with issues at least a couple times a week! Last Friday, the school called me and I was on the phone for an hour
.while I was at work! My difficult child was not allowed to go on a field trip because of his behavior for the past several weeks (which was confusing because his teacher, Mr. C, sent the permission slip home 2 days before and emailed me to make sure I signed it.). He was very angry and wanted us to come get him from school which we can't do because we both work. Although he was mad I was able to keep him from exploding but then his anger turned to hurt and he was upset (almost crying) because he feels like the teachers dont understand him. He later got very upset
to the point of sobbing
.stating that he feels like his 3 of his teachers (2 are ParaPros) hate him and gang up on him. This broke my heart and what really upset me is that while he was sobbing on the phone with me his teacher, Mrs. S, and the 2 ParaPros were in the room and not one of them asked him if he was OK. One ParaPro did approach him but only to say You gonna have to call her back. She didnt even acknowledge that he was crying. Boy, was I angry and I let her know it. I have been sensing for a few weeks now that this particular ParaPro was annoyed with my difficult child and that really frustrates me because that will only make dealing with his issues more difficult (Which I also informed her about!). After all that I was able to get him calmed down and to remain at school. That night he had a friend spend the night and the rest of the weekend went pretty good. Then Monday and Tuesday were better at school. He was still needing a lot of direction and prompting to do his work but he wasnt being as defiant. We thought, hey maybe the Lithium is starting to help him. Then you have today
and you realize that nothing has really changed
.as it has been during the last year! His school called me again this morning to tell me that difficult child was refusing to do his work and they had him in the office to do it. When I talked to difficult child he was very upset and I believe that all this stemmed from the AMOUNT of work that was given to him. He had 8 sheets of Math (which he HATES!) work to do. He has always shut down when he is given a large amount of work to do. He sees it as if its impossible and he will never get done. He cant look at in pieces
which what I tried to focus him on
..I tried to get him to just do 1 sheet and then worry about the next one. He was being very unreasonable. He went from stating Im not going to do it to I will just guess at it to I just dont want to do it in the office. That is why I dont want to do it. He was all over the place. I was on the phone for 25 minutes trying to reason with him (While I am at work! Thank God I have an understanding boss!) . Right after I got off that phone call, I got another phone call from his teacher, Mr. C, which is regarding a different issue that he had with him earlier regarding trying to get out of doing classwork but Mr. C was able to get him on track
.or so he thought because once he left Mr. Cs class the issue escalated (I am wondering if this has anything to do with who he was with. Mr. C has an amazing ability to deal with difficult childs melt downs. He speaks to him calmly with a quite, non-confrontational tone...but also firm when he needs to be. Most of difficult childs issues are in the other teacher (Mrs. S) and her ParaPros class. I sense their frustration with him so I can only imagine what he sense from them. I believe they tend to argue with him which is the wrong way to handle him. I mean, he is in an EBD Self Contained Classroom! Shouldnt they ALL know how to deal with these childrens melt downs and inappropriate behaviors? It is so frustrating
and he is still in Middle School. His teachers keep telling me that when he goes to high school next year that they wont tolerate his behavior
.so I am really worried about next year. YIKES! Oh well, for now I will just keep telling myself
and my difficult child
.just 5 more days, just 5 more days, just 5 more days and NO SCHOOL!
Sorry to rattle on and on.....sometimes you just need to get it out! Thanks for listening!
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Sorry to rattle on and on.....sometimes you just need to get it out! Thanks for listening!
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