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Just when I was becoming more sure of myself...
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<blockquote data-quote="Mom2oddson" data-source="post: 410960" data-attributes="member: 65"><p>I believe that questioning our efforts is a sign of good parenting. It means that we are always trying to do whatever it takes to help our kids, to always better our efforts to help them, to continue growing to help them. Yet, don't get caught up in the blame game. Until they've lived with an ODD child, they can not even begin to fathom what it is like. </p><p></p><p>I don't know how many times I was given parenting advice. Even got called into a special meeting with the principal and Ant's teacher (husband & wife) so that they could help me understand how to parent correctly. Read tons of books, took classes, and questions myself over and over (still do some days and he's 20). </p><p></p><p>You know in your heart that difficult child isn't "just spoiled". Spoiled children don't escalate like an ODD kid does. And the staying power of a spoiled child is so much lower than an ODD kid. I remember sending Ant to bed when he was getting out of control. I'd say "good-night" and "what part of good-night don't you understand" over and over for at least an HOUR each time. I think a spoiled kid would of given up a lot earlier. And wouldn't of hit every button I ever had in that hour. </p><p></p><p>I think self-doubt is easy for us warrior parents because we are trying so hard to help our kids and we are failing. So we feel that it has to be us. And when a "caring" friend echos our doubts, we (at least in my case) seem to grab on with both hands as proof that it is us. {{{Hugs}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mom2oddson, post: 410960, member: 65"] I believe that questioning our efforts is a sign of good parenting. It means that we are always trying to do whatever it takes to help our kids, to always better our efforts to help them, to continue growing to help them. Yet, don't get caught up in the blame game. Until they've lived with an ODD child, they can not even begin to fathom what it is like. I don't know how many times I was given parenting advice. Even got called into a special meeting with the principal and Ant's teacher (husband & wife) so that they could help me understand how to parent correctly. Read tons of books, took classes, and questions myself over and over (still do some days and he's 20). You know in your heart that difficult child isn't "just spoiled". Spoiled children don't escalate like an ODD kid does. And the staying power of a spoiled child is so much lower than an ODD kid. I remember sending Ant to bed when he was getting out of control. I'd say "good-night" and "what part of good-night don't you understand" over and over for at least an HOUR each time. I think a spoiled kid would of given up a lot earlier. And wouldn't of hit every button I ever had in that hour. I think self-doubt is easy for us warrior parents because we are trying so hard to help our kids and we are failing. So we feel that it has to be us. And when a "caring" friend echos our doubts, we (at least in my case) seem to grab on with both hands as proof that it is us. {{{Hugs}}} [/QUOTE]
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