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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 118938" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I don't know how to help with the specific problem, but when I notice myself avoiding telling difficult child "no", I stop and tell myself that he probably knows it- and that's part of the reason he turns it into a confrontation- to get me to back down. (Now, it's not the same as when he's more "manic" for lack of better word- but sometimes, it's just manipulation.) Anyway, I normally think about it a little, cool myself down over it, then decide to inform him now or wait until the subject comes up again later today or tomorrow, then calmly and nicely, but firmly (not provoking or being defensive), that he will not be allowed to do this. When the yelling or arguing or "why's" or whimpering starts, I just tell him that I have given him my answer. I wouldn't wait until just a day or two ahead of time though, seems like that could end up worse.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 118938, member: 3699"] I don't know how to help with the specific problem, but when I notice myself avoiding telling difficult child "no", I stop and tell myself that he probably knows it- and that's part of the reason he turns it into a confrontation- to get me to back down. (Now, it's not the same as when he's more "manic" for lack of better word- but sometimes, it's just manipulation.) Anyway, I normally think about it a little, cool myself down over it, then decide to inform him now or wait until the subject comes up again later today or tomorrow, then calmly and nicely, but firmly (not provoking or being defensive), that he will not be allowed to do this. When the yelling or arguing or "why's" or whimpering starts, I just tell him that I have given him my answer. I wouldn't wait until just a day or two ahead of time though, seems like that could end up worse. [/QUOTE]
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