Kanga is getting discharged

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by JJJ, Feb 6, 2008.

  1. JJJ

    JJJ Active Member

    I knew the call was coming but it still felt like a punch in the gut. We have to go pick her up tomorrow.

    husband is going to take off work and we are driving her out to the old psychiatric hospital for a PHP evaluation. Regardless of if they accept her, she will be going to a group home for 3 weeks.

    After that, I don't know what we will do. I hope we can find alternate arrangements. The psychiatric hospital psychiatrist was helpful enough to say that if we are lucky Kanga will try and kill us again because 4 psychiatric hospital stays in less than 2 years is an even stronger argument than just 3. Gee thanks, let's just hope that this time she isn't successful.
  2. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    I wish I had some wise words, I don't. All I can offer is my hugs and prayers.
  3. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    I am sorry. This should be a day that comes when it is appropiate and is wanted, not be forced on you. Be careful and keep you and yours safe.
  4. house of cards

    house of cards New Member

    What a nightmare, adding my prayers for your safety and that KLanga can get the right help.
  5. Jena

    Jena New Member

    I wish i had some wise words as well, all i can say is i am so sorry that you have to go thru this.


  6. Jessica

    Jessica New Member

    Lots of (((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))
  7. mrscatinthehat

    mrscatinthehat Seussical

    Sending lots of hugs and the hope that someone will get their head out of their behind about this.

  8. klmno

    klmno Active Member

    Sorry to hear this, JJJ. Maybe you should asked for phone number of person responsible so you can call them whenever Kanga is delusional and asked them what they think you should do- you know- at 3:00 or 4:00 in the morning.

  9. Steely

    Steely Active Member

    :pouting:So, so sorry. I just cannot understand why they will not place her. This world needs an overhaul.
    Sending much strength...........and many hugs.
  10. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I'm so sorry-will be keeping your family in my prayers.
  11. Marguerite

    Marguerite Active Member

    I really wonder - maybe that report was worded that way to make it easier for them to do this?

    Not acceptable, unless they can give you some assurances. I would be asking for something in writing, to give you an indication of what you should do in the event of a recurrence...

    Or maybe ask them to put, in writing, their current assessment of her mental state and her needs.

    Hang in there. This isn't fair on any of you, Kanga included.

  12. gcvmom

    gcvmom Here we go again!


    Sending hugs and prayers that things start making sense soon...
  13. daralex

    daralex Clinging onto my sanity

    I'm SOOO sorry for the whole situation and the frustration/concern you're feeling! Why are people such ***holes??!!! Will keep you and Kanga in our thoughts.
  14. JJJ

    JJJ Active Member

    Thank you all for the supportive thoughts and hugs. To add insult to injury, I hit a pothole on the way to work and shredded my tire.
  15. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts


    Sorry I missed this - sorry to hear of the discharge.

    God, I hate this system; for all of us. Especially for Kanga & you this morning.

    Take this 3 weeks of group home & research. Heal, gather strength for whatever it is you & husband decide is the next move.

    In the meantime, you have a group of :warrior: parents at your back; ready to listen, hold you up or whatever we can do to help you through this.

    (When my back was against the wall like this for wm, a few years back I remember being this panicked - this scared. I also remember spending 4 days straight on the phone calling my way up the state social service/mental health care ladder demanding help for my son) . I had 3 phones going, home, my cell & husband's cell, plus email. I got a last minute reprieve with wm staying in the psychiatric hospital until a bed opened up at one of the best Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)/attachment Residential Treatment Center (RTC) facilities around.

    I'm not sure if I have any notes left from those 4 days but or if they would even apply to your state but if I see anything that might help I'll pm you.

    Big big ((((((hugs))))) this morning.
  16. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    Like Timer Lady, I missed this and am very sorry.

    OK, mustering up every bit of juju I have and sending it your way.

    Oh, and it is fitting that you hit a pothole on the way to deal with the A-holes.

  17. Coookie

    Coookie Active Member

    Sending many gentle hugs to you JJJ... :( We are here for you. :(
  18. WhymeMom?

    WhymeMom? No real answers to life..

    Hoping you find a solution to this tangled puzzle.......thinking of you and your family........
  19. PersonalEnigma

    PersonalEnigma New Member

    Oh no :( No advice here but I am definitely thinking of you and Kanga.
  20. jannie

    jannie trying to survive....

    Just checking in....I can't believe that she's getting discharged....How did things go today??