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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 398578" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>Thanks Susie -- this is why this board is so important. After I posted, I wondered if I was being 'too strict' lol.</p><p></p><p>She agreed to the birth control implant a few months ago. She cannot get pg until at least 19 -- thank God!!! husband and I agreed, no matter how horrible she is being as an adult, if she remains in contact with us, we will pay her to get the implant redone everything 3 years until her childbearing years are behind her. We also are in agreement that we would call DCFS if we felt the baby was in any danger and that we would NOT be foster parents for her kids. One of the drawbacks to the implant is that if it is not replaced every 3 years, it can lead to infertility -- sadly, in this case that would not necessarily be a drawback. </p><p></p><p>At one of her psychiatric hospital stays when she was 13, the psychiatrist said that Kanga would be an interesting case study as he would have expected a child with her level of impaired reality and low impulse control to be on drugs and pregnant at 13. The fact that she is now 16, still not on drugs nor pregnant is probably nothing short of a miracle. The psychiatrist said that it is rare that he gets to treat a child this impaired who is "just" mentally ill and not a substance abuser. He hoped that it would increase her chances for a successful adulthood. That is still to be seen but at least we have prevented her from bringing an innocent child into the situation. </p><p></p><p>She is 21 months away from being 18. We are 3 months away from our next funding renewal. If we can get her funding renewed at that time (and there is every indication that we will), then we should be golden for funding through her 18th birthday, while technically we would need 5 months beyond that, I think we could probably throw ourselves on the mercy of our school district to get through the last semester. At that point, she will not have seen the other kids in over 3 years and had very limited contact in the 2 years before that. I'm hoping that she leaves them alone. We are pushing hard for her 'supported housing' to be near her old Residential Treatment Center (RTC) as that is over 2 hours away and there is no 'easy' public transportation from there to here. </p><p></p><p>All of our facebook accounts are on strictest privacy and I'm teaching the others how to keep their info as private as possible, difficult to do in this day and age, especially with Piglet's sports -- as everything is documented online. </p><p></p><p>If necessary, we will move if she presents a danger to us but I think she will simply vanish except for a random 'gimme' call around her birthday and Christmas.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 398578, member: 1169"] Thanks Susie -- this is why this board is so important. After I posted, I wondered if I was being 'too strict' lol. She agreed to the birth control implant a few months ago. She cannot get pg until at least 19 -- thank God!!! husband and I agreed, no matter how horrible she is being as an adult, if she remains in contact with us, we will pay her to get the implant redone everything 3 years until her childbearing years are behind her. We also are in agreement that we would call DCFS if we felt the baby was in any danger and that we would NOT be foster parents for her kids. One of the drawbacks to the implant is that if it is not replaced every 3 years, it can lead to infertility -- sadly, in this case that would not necessarily be a drawback. At one of her psychiatric hospital stays when she was 13, the psychiatrist said that Kanga would be an interesting case study as he would have expected a child with her level of impaired reality and low impulse control to be on drugs and pregnant at 13. The fact that she is now 16, still not on drugs nor pregnant is probably nothing short of a miracle. The psychiatrist said that it is rare that he gets to treat a child this impaired who is "just" mentally ill and not a substance abuser. He hoped that it would increase her chances for a successful adulthood. That is still to be seen but at least we have prevented her from bringing an innocent child into the situation. She is 21 months away from being 18. We are 3 months away from our next funding renewal. If we can get her funding renewed at that time (and there is every indication that we will), then we should be golden for funding through her 18th birthday, while technically we would need 5 months beyond that, I think we could probably throw ourselves on the mercy of our school district to get through the last semester. At that point, she will not have seen the other kids in over 3 years and had very limited contact in the 2 years before that. I'm hoping that she leaves them alone. We are pushing hard for her 'supported housing' to be near her old Residential Treatment Center (RTC) as that is over 2 hours away and there is no 'easy' public transportation from there to here. All of our facebook accounts are on strictest privacy and I'm teaching the others how to keep their info as private as possible, difficult to do in this day and age, especially with Piglet's sports -- as everything is documented online. If necessary, we will move if she presents a danger to us but I think she will simply vanish except for a random 'gimme' call around her birthday and Christmas. [/QUOTE]
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