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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 205427" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>How true! That is exactly the question, because my difficult child has a fully-developed sense of right and wrong as they pertain to *others* - but for him the rules don't apply. Unfortunately my books on antisocial personality disorder point out that it's not quite true that Auditory Processing Disorders (APD) people have no conscience or sense of right and wrong; they usually have no problem distinguishing them for others or in theory, but for themselves they selectively ignore the inconvenient parts of the moral code. </p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p></p><p>That's where I am, too. I've spent so many years trying to address his behaviors clinically, keeping in mind his EFD and various diagnoses, but in the end it's pretty simple. He has to behave in socially acceptable ways. The etiology is not the main thing. His employers haven't cared about his diagnoses or EFD, they just care that he was setting his lunch bag on fire at work, or that he was throwing garbage or boasting about being strong enough to crush apples in one hand. He doesn't HAVE to do this stuff. So I'm strictly behavioral in my approach now. I read my notes from years ago and they're horrible - we lived under such abuse from him. I just want to make up something of the lost time and attention to my other kids, now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 205427, member: 2884"] How true! That is exactly the question, because my difficult child has a fully-developed sense of right and wrong as they pertain to *others* - but for him the rules don't apply. Unfortunately my books on antisocial personality disorder point out that it's not quite true that Auditory Processing Disorders (APD) people have no conscience or sense of right and wrong; they usually have no problem distinguishing them for others or in theory, but for themselves they selectively ignore the inconvenient parts of the moral code. That's where I am, too. I've spent so many years trying to address his behaviors clinically, keeping in mind his EFD and various diagnoses, but in the end it's pretty simple. He has to behave in socially acceptable ways. The etiology is not the main thing. His employers haven't cared about his diagnoses or EFD, they just care that he was setting his lunch bag on fire at work, or that he was throwing garbage or boasting about being strong enough to crush apples in one hand. He doesn't HAVE to do this stuff. So I'm strictly behavioral in my approach now. I read my notes from years ago and they're horrible - we lived under such abuse from him. I just want to make up something of the lost time and attention to my other kids, now. [/QUOTE]
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