Hey thanks for asking, I'm sorry - I've been able to take a quick look at a couple of threads here and there but haven't had time to look over the whole board. husband has settled very well, he's been stable and hasn't had more pain since the first night home, and no arrhythmias, no more bleeding etc. I do think he came home a bit too early; the only reason I didn't complain was my fear of hospital superbugs, given that he'd had an invasive procedure. Plus we're blessed with a hospital five minutes away that will give him great care 24/7. But the first few days were stressful.
Now he's feeling more confident, I think every morning he wakes up alive he feels better.
And in spite of being a very active, driven person, he hasn't gotten obsessive and irritable about stuff around the house, and he hasn't gotten into arguments with difficult child. If anything, I've been more angry and frustrated with difficult child.
I'm doing a lot of cooking, trying to make nonfat vegetarian dishes that are edible. I can't believe how much time it takes! But I'll get better at it.
difficult child has really reasserted his personality disorder in all of this. Totally self-absorbed, told me he didn't feel anything when told how critically ill his Dad was, arguing and wanting to get into stupid stuff with me this week ... even though it's Christmas week I could see him walk out the door tomorrow, he's been that obnoxious. Yet he thinks life here is intolerable and we 'ride' him constantly, and he 'can't wait to move out'.
This evening my own Dad called with the news that my stepmother has terminal cancer. He called within a few minutes of the doctor leaving (their family doctor made a house call to give them the news at 7:30 pm) and he and stepmother were in the initial shock and upset. I want so much to go and see them; my Dad is unwell himself and I don't know if he'll survive losing his wife, who has been a loving and caring woman and a godsend after the decades we all suffered of my mother's abuse. I can't leave husband right now but I wish we lived closer (7 hours' drive).