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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 282135" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>We made a point of doing this in difficult child 3's Communication Book. At first his teacher reacted with hostility, she accused me of being unfair to her (as if I had accused her of only being negative) when in fact I was making it as a suggestion, and to reinforce anythnig positive she might have written.</p><p></p><p>This is really valuable - not only does it 'lock in' the memories of good things, but it can change your perspective of the child, even on a bad day, if you can find something nice to say even in the face of bad stuff.</p><p></p><p>I do a lot of writing, one thing we learn is that no character (in a story) is totally black or totallywhite; we are complex. Plus we are a blend, we also never believe ourselves to be bad. Deep in our hearts, we always put ourselves in with the good guys. </p><p></p><p>difficult child 3 sometims reads through his old Communication Books. He gets angry if all he can find is negativity, especially written by his teachers. KNowing we have good stuff in there too helps him see the balance. It also helps us to look back and see how far he has come. Having the positive stuff there makes the back-reading a more pleasant, positive experience for everybody.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 282135, member: 1991"] We made a point of doing this in difficult child 3's Communication Book. At first his teacher reacted with hostility, she accused me of being unfair to her (as if I had accused her of only being negative) when in fact I was making it as a suggestion, and to reinforce anythnig positive she might have written. This is really valuable - not only does it 'lock in' the memories of good things, but it can change your perspective of the child, even on a bad day, if you can find something nice to say even in the face of bad stuff. I do a lot of writing, one thing we learn is that no character (in a story) is totally black or totallywhite; we are complex. Plus we are a blend, we also never believe ourselves to be bad. Deep in our hearts, we always put ourselves in with the good guys. difficult child 3 sometims reads through his old Communication Books. He gets angry if all he can find is negativity, especially written by his teachers. KNowing we have good stuff in there too helps him see the balance. It also helps us to look back and see how far he has come. Having the positive stuff there makes the back-reading a more pleasant, positive experience for everybody. Marg [/QUOTE]
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