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Kicked 18 year old son out, Im struggling with it
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 684712" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Having him in your house is dangerous to you and everyone else there. He is acting like a criminal to those who love him the most. He is probably using more than pot.</p><p></p><p>My own personal opinion is that he his legally an adult now and is breaking the law and every rule in your house. Your house/your rules. He is struggling in your home and abusing you while you love him.</p><p></p><p>Our kids do not go hungry. They are street smart due to years of hannging with unsavory people. If it makes you feel better, find out where they serve meals to the homeless and give him the address of shelters and food pantries and guide him on where to go to get food stamps, welfare and section 8 housing. He will have to stay clean while he is in a shelter or section 8 housing so he may prefer the park. Many addicts refuse to follow any rules because they need to be high and drug use causes defiance,stealing, you know the commercial. But he will not change if you make things easy for him. It doesnt work.</p><p></p><p>I would not give your son any money. Food is easy to get. They use that excuse to pull at our heartstrings so that we give them money for their substance of choice. Giving any money is a risk that you are buying drugs for them.</p><p></p><p>Drug tests are iffy. The abusers know that certain drugs dont show up on tests and often stick to those,but those drugs are just as dangerous as the ones that do show up.</p><p></p><p>Take care of yourself. Dont forget you. This is hard. I recommend a private therapist or/and Al Anon to help you on this sad, unasked for journey.</p><p></p><p>We are always here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 684712, member: 1550"] Having him in your house is dangerous to you and everyone else there. He is acting like a criminal to those who love him the most. He is probably using more than pot. My own personal opinion is that he his legally an adult now and is breaking the law and every rule in your house. Your house/your rules. He is struggling in your home and abusing you while you love him. Our kids do not go hungry. They are street smart due to years of hannging with unsavory people. If it makes you feel better, find out where they serve meals to the homeless and give him the address of shelters and food pantries and guide him on where to go to get food stamps, welfare and section 8 housing. He will have to stay clean while he is in a shelter or section 8 housing so he may prefer the park. Many addicts refuse to follow any rules because they need to be high and drug use causes defiance,stealing, you know the commercial. But he will not change if you make things easy for him. It doesnt work. I would not give your son any money. Food is easy to get. They use that excuse to pull at our heartstrings so that we give them money for their substance of choice. Giving any money is a risk that you are buying drugs for them. Drug tests are iffy. The abusers know that certain drugs dont show up on tests and often stick to those,but those drugs are just as dangerous as the ones that do show up. Take care of yourself. Dont forget you. This is hard. I recommend a private therapist or/and Al Anon to help you on this sad, unasked for journey. We are always here for you. [/QUOTE]
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