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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 188316" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Haven't you guys heard?? It's not about winning and losing. It's about making the kids feel good at all costs. It's that self-esteem thing again. Every kid has to feel they are equal to every other kid in everything or else their self-esteem might get permanently damaged.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /></p><p> </p><p>The old fashioned game of playing ball (or any other game) on an empty lot for fun and exercise is gone.</p><p> </p><p>If your kid is better than my kid then your kid needs to move somewhere else so my kid can feel good about themselves.</p><p> </p><p>If you're paying attention it's creeping in everywhere, and not just with kids anymore.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /></p><p> </p><p>Travis played soccer for a year, disabilities and all. Dear ol' Mom was his coach. And during that year he learned that <strong>no matter how much he practiced and how good he got there would always be someone who was better</strong>. So did every other boy on that team. Which is why they learned to work together to compensate for weaknesses and take advantage of strengths. The whole point of the word TEAM.</p><p> </p><p>And despite the fact that we began the season with a disabled boy who knew nothing about the game and had trouble seeing the ball, running the right direction, and not tripping over his own feet......not to mention 4 other boys who had never played, 2 hot shots who thought they were ready for the major leagues but didn't have a clue about how to function with team members.......(and one really was good, the other only thought he was good cuz his Mom kept telling him so)............ After a zillion practices these boys learned to work together. Everyone got equal time on the field. Everyone. They won the league championship when all of the odds were against them.</p><p> </p><p>But it wasn't just the championship, those kids learned that life ain't fair, but that doesn't mean you give up, it means you try harder, and that it's okay to ask for help from someone when you need it. And there were a couple of parents that learned a few lessons that year too.</p><p> </p><p>Self-esteem is important. But giving false praise and arranging the world around a kid to always make them feel successful even when they aren't does much more harm than good in the long run. Too many things in Life require hard work and grit.</p><p> </p><p>If the boy in the article is as good as they say, then odds are he's worked his arse off to get that way with a bit of talent thrown in. Should he be punished for hard work and determination? Good grief. What have we stooped to? If other boys his age aren't as good for whatever reason, then guess what? Practice makes you better. You don't want this kid intimidating you, get in the back yard and practice, get in extra practice with your teammates and work together to learn how to win against him.</p><p> </p><p>Sheesh.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 188316, member: 84"] Haven't you guys heard?? It's not about winning and losing. It's about making the kids feel good at all costs. It's that self-esteem thing again. Every kid has to feel they are equal to every other kid in everything or else their self-esteem might get permanently damaged.:angry: The old fashioned game of playing ball (or any other game) on an empty lot for fun and exercise is gone. If your kid is better than my kid then your kid needs to move somewhere else so my kid can feel good about themselves. If you're paying attention it's creeping in everywhere, and not just with kids anymore.:angry: Travis played soccer for a year, disabilities and all. Dear ol' Mom was his coach. And during that year he learned that [B]no matter how much he practiced and how good he got there would always be someone who was better[/B]. So did every other boy on that team. Which is why they learned to work together to compensate for weaknesses and take advantage of strengths. The whole point of the word TEAM. And despite the fact that we began the season with a disabled boy who knew nothing about the game and had trouble seeing the ball, running the right direction, and not tripping over his own feet......not to mention 4 other boys who had never played, 2 hot shots who thought they were ready for the major leagues but didn't have a clue about how to function with team members.......(and one really was good, the other only thought he was good cuz his Mom kept telling him so)............ After a zillion practices these boys learned to work together. Everyone got equal time on the field. Everyone. They won the league championship when all of the odds were against them. But it wasn't just the championship, those kids learned that life ain't fair, but that doesn't mean you give up, it means you try harder, and that it's okay to ask for help from someone when you need it. And there were a couple of parents that learned a few lessons that year too. Self-esteem is important. But giving false praise and arranging the world around a kid to always make them feel successful even when they aren't does much more harm than good in the long run. Too many things in Life require hard work and grit. If the boy in the article is as good as they say, then odds are he's worked his arse off to get that way with a bit of talent thrown in. Should he be punished for hard work and determination? Good grief. What have we stooped to? If other boys his age aren't as good for whatever reason, then guess what? Practice makes you better. You don't want this kid intimidating you, get in the back yard and practice, get in extra practice with your teammates and work together to learn how to win against him. Sheesh. [/QUOTE]
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