I knew this would happen. He has always been in denial that my son has anything wrong with him. He is okay with difficult child 1 being on her bipolar medications because he has seen her many rages first hand. Although my son is hyper, he does not see any signs of ADHD in him. He is not in school with him. He does not talk to teachers or look at his report card. He has not talked to his doctor, who tested him and rated him severe. He told difficult child 1 that her brother does not have ADHD because he has to have at least one "normal child." difficult child 1 was incredibly insulted by this but of course she didn't say anything to him about it because she is forced to hide her emotions at his place. He absolutely is adamant about not having difficult child 2 taking any medications for any reason. I was opposed to it as well until I finally admitted difficult child has been struggling so bad in school the last two years that he is failing. He absolutely cannot pay attention. It's bad. Both last year's teacher and this year's teacher have said so. My son has a very high IQ. He tested in the 95th percentile. He is in a slow moving class right now only because his grades are poor due to his lack of focus. The only subject he gets an A in is math, which he excels at. He really needs the help and there's no denying it. I couldn't even tell his dad myself because I knew he would take his anger out on me. I had my mom tell him. She is very tactful and knows how to put things "nicely" as to not offend anyone. There's too much bad blood between the two of us for me to even try to reason with him. Ex told my mom that he does not want him on the medications. My mom explained in detail what his teacher said and the testing that psychiatrist gave him. Ex's response was, "I was the same way when I was a child and I turned out fine." My mom gave ex psychiatrist's phone number and told him to feel free to give him a call if he is that concerned. I know that he will never will. I am not even going to tell him about the asperger's because he is gonna FREAK. How do I get this man to come on board? Ex dropped out of high school in the ninth grade because he couldn't handle school! The last thing I want my son to be is another drop out! He could end up being held back without proper help and he is incredibly smart and it would be a shame if that happened. He is going to be with my ex all weekend. I am afraid he is not going to give my son his medications. psychiatrist told me that he absolutely cannot skip a dose. It is not a stimulant and he cannot skip weekends.