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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 539437" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>I sympathise. It rather reminds me of my ex-husband who, although he is now a reformed character who behaves towards me with impeccable civility and friendliness (now that he is remarried and has a biological child, his overriding obsession), behaved like this both when we were married and just after we were divorced - basically he would use anything, just anything, to get at me, provoke me, threaten me and generally behave like a wasp buzzing and buzzing around me to create maximum irritation.</p><p>It's not about the socks, as you know. His threat is ridiculous. It's about a power game. Do you know why he is doing this now? </p><p>What I found was that showing I was frightened was the worst possible reaction. You need to call his bluff, probably - but it is so wearing, wearying and damaging for the children... You need to stay calm, focused and detached. Easier said than done!! Let the storm pass, try not to let him get you riled up and anxious. I used to get upset all the time and it fed my husband's antics - but I was in a position where he could call the shots in his patriarchal country, alas. You are in a system where he does NOT have all the power.</p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 539437, member: 11227"] I sympathise. It rather reminds me of my ex-husband who, although he is now a reformed character who behaves towards me with impeccable civility and friendliness (now that he is remarried and has a biological child, his overriding obsession), behaved like this both when we were married and just after we were divorced - basically he would use anything, just anything, to get at me, provoke me, threaten me and generally behave like a wasp buzzing and buzzing around me to create maximum irritation. It's not about the socks, as you know. His threat is ridiculous. It's about a power game. Do you know why he is doing this now? What I found was that showing I was frightened was the worst possible reaction. You need to call his bluff, probably - but it is so wearing, wearying and damaging for the children... You need to stay calm, focused and detached. Easier said than done!! Let the storm pass, try not to let him get you riled up and anxious. I used to get upset all the time and it fed my husband's antics - but I was in a position where he could call the shots in his patriarchal country, alas. You are in a system where he does NOT have all the power. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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