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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 655444" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there.</p><p></p><p>I would not miss son at all as his heroin use is a danger to you legally if it's found in your home. He isn't just using sometimes. It really doesn't work like that...it's not like pot where you can use it for a week then stop. It's highly addictive. Heroin addicts use every day and can sometimes act normal to you when they are high. That doesn't mean at all that they ARE normal. I'd be glad to have him and wife gone. They need to grow up and he needs to get off the heroin or it could kill him just frm using it too much. It's a very dangerous drug.</p><p></p><p>Not so sure it's a good thing for the kids to be in their drug-filled care. No matter how it seems, your son is a heroin addict. He is using the most addictive drug out there and he is not ok. The wife may be using drugs too...they aren't going to share that with you. If you can do it, and if this were me (and I realize you are different) I would try to talk them into keeping the kids with me. If the school finds out that Dad uses heroin and is high while he is taking care of the kids, he could be in deep trouble and even lose the kids. So that is my take on it, and only my own opinion.</p><p></p><p>I do think it is fantastic that you and husband will have relief now and it's good for younger son to see that there are no rewards for using heroin. In the book I read about the two heroin users in one family, called "Mom, We Need to Talk" (forgot author) the girl was totally normal acting to her family while getting high, selling and buying drugs and doing dangerous things on the side until she totally wanted to quit and was willing to go very far to quit. The son was a mess for years and years. He did quit in the end, but only after the family lost track of him a few times and had given up. So it's a real testimony to the fact that people CAN quit, but it's never a normal lifestyle until then. Heroin is just too high risk and dangerous and can not be taken in moderation or safely.</p><p></p><p>I would possibly even try to get custody of the grandkids myself. But these are tough decisions and very personal ones and you have to do what you can live with. I'd be thinking that Son needs to quit. It's not an option to keep using heroin at all. It kills you. And I'd want to make him have huge incentives to quit because I'd be afraid. I think it often works, especially if they lose something very important to them. At any rate, we are cheering for you, whatever you choose to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 655444, member: 1550"] Hi there. I would not miss son at all as his heroin use is a danger to you legally if it's found in your home. He isn't just using sometimes. It really doesn't work like that...it's not like pot where you can use it for a week then stop. It's highly addictive. Heroin addicts use every day and can sometimes act normal to you when they are high. That doesn't mean at all that they ARE normal. I'd be glad to have him and wife gone. They need to grow up and he needs to get off the heroin or it could kill him just frm using it too much. It's a very dangerous drug. Not so sure it's a good thing for the kids to be in their drug-filled care. No matter how it seems, your son is a heroin addict. He is using the most addictive drug out there and he is not ok. The wife may be using drugs too...they aren't going to share that with you. If you can do it, and if this were me (and I realize you are different) I would try to talk them into keeping the kids with me. If the school finds out that Dad uses heroin and is high while he is taking care of the kids, he could be in deep trouble and even lose the kids. So that is my take on it, and only my own opinion. I do think it is fantastic that you and husband will have relief now and it's good for younger son to see that there are no rewards for using heroin. In the book I read about the two heroin users in one family, called "Mom, We Need to Talk" (forgot author) the girl was totally normal acting to her family while getting high, selling and buying drugs and doing dangerous things on the side until she totally wanted to quit and was willing to go very far to quit. The son was a mess for years and years. He did quit in the end, but only after the family lost track of him a few times and had given up. So it's a real testimony to the fact that people CAN quit, but it's never a normal lifestyle until then. Heroin is just too high risk and dangerous and can not be taken in moderation or safely. I would possibly even try to get custody of the grandkids myself. But these are tough decisions and very personal ones and you have to do what you can live with. I'd be thinking that Son needs to quit. It's not an option to keep using heroin at all. It kills you. And I'd want to make him have huge incentives to quit because I'd be afraid. I think it often works, especially if they lose something very important to them. At any rate, we are cheering for you, whatever you choose to do. [/QUOTE]
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