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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 359917" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Trinity, difficult child 3's responses often seem exaggerated also, especially his emotional responses. When he was in Kindergarten, his teacher thought he was being sarcastic or deceptive because he would give such an exaggerated response. For example when he was angry, difficult child 3 would 'put on' his angry face as a way of communicating that he was angry. His teacher's initial reaction was, "He's not really angry, he's only pretending to be."</p><p>I finally convinced the teacher that this was the only way difficult child 3 had, of showing other people how he felt. Of course it LOOKED fake, but the emotions were real.</p><p></p><p>These days he's had more practice and seems more genuine. But sometimes it does seem exaggerated, still. Especially where a verbal content is involved - difficult child 3 had significant speech dysfluencies (more than a mere stammer) and the usual spontaneous expostulations that someone else might say, including cursing, often come out of difficult child 3 as carefully considered responses. I've said to him, "If you've got time to think it through to say it right, then you don't need to swear, you've got time to think of something more creative to say."</p><p></p><p>For example, difficult child 3 stubs his toe. He might begin to say, "Blast, I kicked my flamin' toe," [except he uses other words the mods won't allow here] but it won't come out properly for a minute or two. But the delay in this, which in anybody else would be modified as the person calms down after the initial shock, in difficult child 3 it seems to go n "pause" and still have to be expressed as if it's spontaneous, often a minute or two later. That is when it seems odd or contrived.</p><p></p><p>It is fun when they get together with other similar people. As difficult child 1 used to say about his Aspie best friend, "He obsesses to me about reptiles, I obsess to him about birds, neither of us listens to the other and we get on brilliantly!"</p><p></p><p>At difficult child 3's drama class and social group, when the kids would go ten pin bowling or even when they arrive at drama class, some of them are very 'huggy' and will hug one another. They do care about one another and when bowling and a kid got a strike (or, in some cases, managed to hit a pin and not roll a gutter ball) these kids cheer one another and high-five. It's wonderful to see. They get really excited for one another, people in neighbouring lanes find it lovely to watch and find their views on autism being challenged. Because these kids know one another well and feel safe with each other. Not all are Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), some have Downs, which actually teaches the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids that hugging is OK. They all learn about tolerance and the differences between each of them, as well as accepting those differences and taking them into account in their interactions.</p><p></p><p>It's all good. I think the mix works well for us, mostly, because it broadens their acceptance.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 359917, member: 1991"] Trinity, difficult child 3's responses often seem exaggerated also, especially his emotional responses. When he was in Kindergarten, his teacher thought he was being sarcastic or deceptive because he would give such an exaggerated response. For example when he was angry, difficult child 3 would 'put on' his angry face as a way of communicating that he was angry. His teacher's initial reaction was, "He's not really angry, he's only pretending to be." I finally convinced the teacher that this was the only way difficult child 3 had, of showing other people how he felt. Of course it LOOKED fake, but the emotions were real. These days he's had more practice and seems more genuine. But sometimes it does seem exaggerated, still. Especially where a verbal content is involved - difficult child 3 had significant speech dysfluencies (more than a mere stammer) and the usual spontaneous expostulations that someone else might say, including cursing, often come out of difficult child 3 as carefully considered responses. I've said to him, "If you've got time to think it through to say it right, then you don't need to swear, you've got time to think of something more creative to say." For example, difficult child 3 stubs his toe. He might begin to say, "Blast, I kicked my flamin' toe," [except he uses other words the mods won't allow here] but it won't come out properly for a minute or two. But the delay in this, which in anybody else would be modified as the person calms down after the initial shock, in difficult child 3 it seems to go n "pause" and still have to be expressed as if it's spontaneous, often a minute or two later. That is when it seems odd or contrived. It is fun when they get together with other similar people. As difficult child 1 used to say about his Aspie best friend, "He obsesses to me about reptiles, I obsess to him about birds, neither of us listens to the other and we get on brilliantly!" At difficult child 3's drama class and social group, when the kids would go ten pin bowling or even when they arrive at drama class, some of them are very 'huggy' and will hug one another. They do care about one another and when bowling and a kid got a strike (or, in some cases, managed to hit a pin and not roll a gutter ball) these kids cheer one another and high-five. It's wonderful to see. They get really excited for one another, people in neighbouring lanes find it lovely to watch and find their views on autism being challenged. Because these kids know one another well and feel safe with each other. Not all are Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), some have Downs, which actually teaches the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids that hugging is OK. They all learn about tolerance and the differences between each of them, as well as accepting those differences and taking them into account in their interactions. It's all good. I think the mix works well for us, mostly, because it broadens their acceptance. Marg [/QUOTE]
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