DDD
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I don't want to usurp the post that had a different origination but "leaving things" and "what was left" or "what might be left" is the topic. husband and I are old. One of my "surprises" as a senior citizen with a health issue is realizing that aside from monetary bequests there really "ain't much" that has any real meaning to the children and grandchildren. This does not mean they are a bunch of selfish losers, lol, it just "is a fact". Even though I was the youngest of four I was Executor of both parents affairs and omg did I learn about human nature and ?? possibly greed?? or maybe grief manifested in a greedful manner?
We honestly did do our best at parenting........and, obviously, grandparenting. We will pass on without sizable financial bequeaths. What's bothersome is that items with-o financial value but full of emotional value to me (or husband) have little to no value to most of the children. An object that easy child/difficult child really hoped he would inherit no longer has a potential place in his new home as his SO has a decorating theme that wouldn't include that space. It's surreal.
Yes, the sterling silver and the imported china and a few special pieces of jewelry "may" be hoped for or valued but that is not what we thought our life was about. Our life was about the happy times that are shown in the photo albums. My most precious items (other than a few pieces of jewelry that I did inherit) are books. Yep...books that have covers and slightly krinkled pages and don't pop up on an electronic device. Just thought I'd let you guys know how some old people think. Our of eight children I have one who "gets it". DDD
We honestly did do our best at parenting........and, obviously, grandparenting. We will pass on without sizable financial bequeaths. What's bothersome is that items with-o financial value but full of emotional value to me (or husband) have little to no value to most of the children. An object that easy child/difficult child really hoped he would inherit no longer has a potential place in his new home as his SO has a decorating theme that wouldn't include that space. It's surreal.
Yes, the sterling silver and the imported china and a few special pieces of jewelry "may" be hoped for or valued but that is not what we thought our life was about. Our life was about the happy times that are shown in the photo albums. My most precious items (other than a few pieces of jewelry that I did inherit) are books. Yep...books that have covers and slightly krinkled pages and don't pop up on an electronic device. Just thought I'd let you guys know how some old people think. Our of eight children I have one who "gets it". DDD