Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by hearthope, Jul 22, 2007.

  1. hearthope

    hearthope New Member

    did it go tonight???

    Let us know when you can!!

  2. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Maybe they are all sitting around laughing, eating ice cream and
    having a great time????????? I hope so! DDD
  3. hearthope

    hearthope New Member

    I hope they are having a great time too!

    I bet Karen's doing the :dance:

    wingnut's gone dance.
  4. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    I'm dying to know how it went too. I hope the new girlfriend is awesome and they're having a wonderful time.
  5. KFld

    KFld New Member

    She is awesome!!!! So different from anyone he has ever been with. She's a friendly "nice girl".

    He was a little stressed yesterday because her aunt that she lives with is very strict and didn't tell her until yesterday morning if she could come and meet us, but come to find out she's in recovery herself and very nervous about her dating someone in recovery. I told difficult child that I would freak if his sister ever came home and told me she was dating a recovering addict because I know what it's all about now. So he needs to learn to be patient and let them get to know him and hopefully eventually trust him. She said something about her aunt wanting her to attend an alanon meeting also.

    They didn't stay too long. We kept it casual. Just sat out on the back deck and talked. husband and his sister liked her also.

    Don't want to get to far ahead of myself, but they really seem to like each other, so I'm hoping it lasts.
  6. hearthope

    hearthope New Member


    You all deserve some 'normal' happiness!

    So glad she was a nice girl.

  7. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    A "friendly" "nice" girl?????? OMG! How awesome! DDD
  8. rejectedmom

    rejectedmom New Member

    Great news Karen. I hope he continues to make wise choices.
  9. saving grace

    saving grace New Member

    Does he know how long she has been in recovery? Hmmm I would be nervous too, not just for her but for him too, Hopefully they will be good for each others recovery, he has been sober for quite some time I hope she has been long enough to not jepordize that for him.

  10. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    Is it the girl or the aunt who is in recovery?
  11. KFld

    KFld New Member

    It's the girls aunt who is in recovery.
  12. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    Karen, it sounds like a nice, low-key visit. Perfect for a first time. Fingers crossed!

  13. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    OK, I had a hard time understanding your post at first too...I thought it was difficult child's aunt that was in recovery, lol!

    Well, I can see her aunt's point. You son, however, has made great strides. He has almost a year clean, and a year is the recommended amount of time that recovering addicts are supposed to give themselves before they attempt a relationship. Now I realize that difficult child has been with wingnut when less than a year sober, but at least he knows now what to run from...

    They both need to take it slow and be very careful. My prayers are with you all! This could be such a good, healing thing.
  14. saving grace

    saving grace New Member

    Ohhhhhh the Aunt is in recovery, I thought the girlfriend was in recovery. I was nervous for them both. I can see why she would be cautious though. Good for him that he has a nice girl to spend time with.

  15. SunnyFlorida

    SunnyFlorida Active Member

    Ok..ok.. it's the aunt in recovery. This could be a good thing...new girlfriend has seen first hand how a loved one has had some "issues".

    A nice girl...................wowie, fantastic :smile:
  16. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful


    So glad she really does seem like a nice girl. Sounds like a solid step forward for difficult child.
  17. scent of cedar

    scent of cedar New Member

    Wow, Karen! :smile:

    And what a contrast the rules and behaviors expected from this girl are from what Wingnut has put him through!

    So, I just have is ask: Is Wingnut a raving beauty or is there just something about her that is so irresistable that difficult child keeps coming back?

    How many young women would send a picture of themselves with someone else unless they are still gunning for whoever it was they sent the picture to?

    She is too spooky by half, this Wingnut! It isn't as though she hadn't just tried to trick difficult child into believing her baby was his when it wasn't.


  18. KFld

    KFld New Member

    <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: scent of cedar</div><div class="ubbcode-body">So, I just have is ask: Is Wingnut a raving beauty or is there just something about her that is so irresistable that difficult child keeps coming back?

    barbara </div></div>

    She is far from a raving beauty. Atleast if she was that I would have been able to understand the attraction. She is actually pretty trashy looking. I guess if she wasn't so trashy she might be considered cute, but her personality hides that.